The majority of people who responded to you are gals, not guys, FYI.
I'm not going to argue with you on sending a toddler on an unaccompanied flight - I would fight against that with my own child. But as you were told, a divorce judgment alone, with no custody or parenting time provisions, would have no bearing on whether or not that would occur. I'm sorry if you were offended by being steered toward using a court in a state which could also resolve property and custody issues.

