Is There a Way to Get Out of Paying Child Support

[iPod]

Fair doesn't come into being. What's not "fair" though is the child's father wanting to get out of child support. Y'know?

I've been told that a dozen times , from a dozen different people if I could only explain everything and the way I see things and the way I view the whole situation then maybe you dozen that have told me that would understand where I come from
Its not all about the money or the bullshit I have to hear from others, I've felt as I have been betrayed and trapped in maze with no end
honestly I would love to have another child and actually father it except with someone I feel can be honest with me and not treat me the way she did towards the end of the relationship ,
But that's not how law works your views and emotional values of life make no difference

Thank you for your responses ,I have only one last question that derails from my op

If she were to marry and that man wanted to have the legal rights of the child , would that abolish the whole child support case ? Could I then legally request paternity if she were to still ask for money?

[Dogmatique]

If she marries and her husband wishes to adopt the child, you could simply agree and then the current child support obligation would cease. Arrears would not be wiped though.

Dude, seriously. You weren't betrayed. You were naive and foolish. And believe me, nobody here has given you any bs.

If you don't want contact with your legal child, that's up to you. But that's a choice you're making.

[iPod]

If she marries and her husband wishes to adopt the child, you could simply agree and then the current child support obligation would cease. Arrears would not be wiped though.

So in this case I'd only pay what ever I owe at that point? Makes sense , so that's my only hope at least I know in the future there is this one option ,sorry but last last question , if I signed over full custody would this still be an option? I'm guessing not..

Dude, seriously. You weren't betrayed. You were naive and foolish. And believe me, nobody here has given you any bs.

The only way you could make a statement like that is if you heard both sides of the story , but I guess from brief stuff Ive told you your opinion has been formed
Oh ,believe me I know I was foolish and very naive , thank you for the rain check
Also , your first post I read it in a negative way my apologies I know your all just answering my questions and your not gonna sugar coat it , and I thank you for that

[Dogmatique]

So in this case I'd only pay what ever I owe at that point? Makes sense , so that's my only hope at least I know in the future there is this one option ,sorry but last last question , if I signed over full custody would this still be an option? I'm guessing not..

Nope - you'd still have to support your child. In fact, you might find - depending on how child support is calculated in your state - that you end up paying MORE child support by not seeing the child than if you actually saw the child.

The only way you could make a statement like that is if you heard both sides of the story , but I guess from brief stuff Ive told you your opinion has been formed
Oh ,believe me I know I was foolish and very naive , thank you for the rain check
Also , your first post I read it in a negative way my apologies I know your all just answering my questions and your not gonna sugar coat it , and I thank you for that

The fact remains, the child is entitled to be supported by both parents. When one parent tries to run away from that obligation it's only natural that people will take a dim view.

But you're right, we don't sugar-coat things

[iPod]

Nope - you'd still have to support your child. In fact, you might find - depending on how child support is calculated in your state - that you end up paying MORE child support by not seeing the child than if you actually saw the child.



The fact remains, the child is entitled to be supported by both parents. When one parent tries to run away from that obligation it's only natural that people will take a dim view.

But you're right, we don't sugar-coat things

All I was looking for was if there would EVER be a way out ,other than the obvious which is her dropping the case all together which I'm sure won't happen unless I got lucky some how or won the lottery or something
dim views can be understandable when looking at me and how I'm handling the situation
But thanks again for responses it leaves me with much to think about

[Dogmatique]

Have you thought about actually having a relationship with the child?

[cbg]

Yet another customer who is certain that we can't possibly understand where they're coming from because if we did, *poof! The law would magically change and suddenly the answers would be different.

Law doesn't work that way, sport. The law says what the law says, regardless of whether we "understand" your side of the story or not.

[iPod]

Have you thought about actually having a relationship with the child?

Yes I have , during the time the mother was blackmailing me with cs I had told her how much I still cared about her

How I would like to put all our problems aside and just be a family together , she said no she doesn't want that with me.
Even if her and and I aren't together to still have a relationship with the child will be hard because she is in the process if getting full custody and moving to London to further her career and the bright future she has ahead of her

But to answer to answer your question yes its crossed my mind many times

[Dogmatique]

She's moving to London as in England? And she's how old? What kind of visa does she think she's going to get?

(You know, you do actually have some input here with regards to where your child lives...)

[iPod]

Yet another customer who is certain that we can't possibly understand where they're coming from because if we did, *poof! The law would magically change and suddenly the answers would be different.

Law doesn't work that way, sport. The law says what the law says, regardless of whether we "understand" your side of the story or not.

What's right and what's wrong doesn't matter in law , I was not saying you guys COULDNT understand
All I said was that you don't because I didn't you tell you the entire story of the relationship between us and after the responses I've received from dogmatique I have thought about it and realized this already , it wouldn't matter who is in the wrong , like you said the law is the law and no amount emotion or any type of pity towards anyone can change that
As much as I would love the answer to be different its not gonna happen , and I realize this now
You guys are helpful though , before setting up an appointment and spending the rest of a months pay check for a DNA test for court would have been a waste of money and I would have felt embarrassed , so thanks for saving me from that situation where I would have just gotten laughed at

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She's moving to London as in England? And she's how old? What kind of visa does she think she's going to get?

(You know, you do actually have some input here with regards to where your child lives...)

Yes as in England , she will only be gone for a year though , i don't think she will leave for good because we always court dates every few months at least thats how it is at the moment
But I'm not to worried about it because its only year
I don't know how passports work or anything since I've never left the country but she will be 22 in October