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    Default Threats to Report for Sexual Assault

    State in question: MA

    This has turned out to be a rather annoying headache. Before I post my story, I come here looking for advice, should the other party decide to act. At this point, it seems doubtful. However, I want to know the best course of action, should she press charges.

    Here's the story:
    I used an online dating service to contact an interesting young woman, and we had several conversations over a few days. She called me one night, asking me to come over. I had little else to do, so decided to stop by. She made hints that she wanted some sort of sexual encounter, but later she denied this. I took a cab to her place, and arrived to find her in a rather grumpy mood. I was affectionate, but only to her comfort level. I told her numerous times that I could leave, if she was feeling poorly. She asked me to stay each time. While I was there, another young woman was present.

    I grew frustrated that she had misled me, and told her that I was going to leave. She got upset, telling me that she had not lied, and told me off. At that point, I wanted to leave, since she had been rude and untalkative. When I arrived home, she sent me a text message apologizing for her behavior. I ignored it, determined that she was looking for attention and wasn't worth the effort. She messaged me again the next day, apologizing further. I told it was alright, but she continued. She picked up on the attitude from the night before, and I told her to stop wasting our time. At that point, I blocked her.

    Now, the real issue: she messages me on another screen name, and tells me she's pressing charges. I once again ignore her. However, she may be a sociopath looking for revenge or attention. I rejected her, and now she's furious. I assume the charge she will press will be some sort of sexual assault, as she was already trying to claim that I coerced her in some fashion. However, not only was the intimacy consensual (I asked her numerous times if she was feeling alright, if it was alright to continue, and so on), but our clothes were never removed. So, she has nothing to charge me with. However, from what I've heard, a false accusation for sexual assault can still harm the name and reputation of the accused.

    Should this come to anything, what should I do? I don't know how these cases are treated. However, I intend to sue her for slander and damages, should she press charges. The scars of such charges, even when proved false, can last a lifetime.

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    Default Re: Threats to Report for Sexual Assault

    Do you have any messages from the dating site, that indicates that she wanted to get intimate with you when you came over? I am afraid that if a girlfriend was over, she may have the girlfriend lie, and two against one, may be against you. Save your messages from her. I think, if she closes her profile, the messages will dissapear, so if you are able to copy them anywhere on your computer, I would do so. I would also send a letter to yourself stating what happened, and it will be postmarked, so if she tries to sue you 1 year down the road, you will have the facts, fresh in your mind, in an UNOPENED envelope. Good luck, and from now on, meet someone in public, so this can not happen.

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    Default Re: Threats to Report for Sexual Assault

    The unopened envelope won't help; if you are so inclined you can mail yourself an empty envelope, put it into a drawer, and put whatever you want into it years after the fact.

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    Default Re: Threats to Report for Sexual Assault

    So, no further advice on the issue? Thanks for the input so far, though.

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    Default Re: Threats to Report for Sexual Assault

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    The unopened envelope won't help; if you are so inclined you can mail yourself an empty envelope, put it into a drawer, and put whatever you want into it years after the fact.
    Bummer, I thought if it was kept sealed, that it would be a "type" of certified letter. I guess someone could figure out how to open it. I figured something written about his side of it, before and if they decided to do something, would at least show that he didn't make up his defense based on what they said at the time of the complaint. Do I make any sense Aaron, lol, I am very tired. Do you have any advise to offer this gentleman? Beyond this, I have no clue.

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