My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Missouri.
Firstly, this is my first time posting on here. I'm hoping this is alright... I'm asking being a third party to this whole situation as it is but trying to understand the situation better and maybe even provide some help to those actually more involved.
My fiancee is currently going through a drawn out divorce. The official paperwork for it was done in January of 2011. There was one child born into the marriage, the paternity always a question as they were living in separate places, she with another man she was seeing, they were living different lives, hardly seeing each other for months around the conception. When they split up "for good", he moved 5 hours away back to his hometown and she kept the child and that was last of contact for him and the daughter. She was threatening him while child support in May of 2011 so he requested for a paternity test to be done. She officially asked for such either end of December or first of January. In the end of January is actually when the results came in that he was in fact the father. My boyfriend is not fighting with her for custody or to ever see her, in fact he is wanting to reliquish what rights he can to her when it's all said and done though he is not fighting child support, been trying to work out the amount, and everything. Social Security are the one's dealing with the payments more so, he's a disabled veteran and the only income he receives is from the VA. He's just wanting to get everything done with without her continuing to stall and problems be brought up.
So this leads to my question...
Two weeks ago, there was a motion to intervene and a motion for third party put in my the grandparents of the child, the mother's parents. Then, last week there was a hearing over it where the mother was fighting against it but "motion to intervene is called, heard and over respondent's objection is granted." My boyfriend did not even know about the grandparent's doing this until the day before this hearing took place and isn't being kept up to date very well. He was told about the situation the day before and told he was not obligated to pay child support until it was sorted out.
My boyfriend has zero contact with his (ex)wife or any of her family really, hasn't spoken to them by choice in over a year. He gets in contact with her sister every once in a great while and my boyfriend's biological mother also has her on facebook. The only communication they really have though is through legal documents in the mail or the few civil setting court dates they have had. Everything is taking place 5 hours from where he lives and he's had trouble making it up there or ever even knowing when he is due to be for this and that. His lawyer is up in that area and is horrible at communication.
So me, I am just trying to understand the situation better to maybe help. He doesn't care who has custody as long as it isn't him or anyone in his family but he doesn't want to be in the middle of something going to drag his divorce out any longer. And I am confused as to how they are even managing this or why it is an issue in the first place and being granted in the court because the mother and the child both live at the grandparent's house. They have for a year and a half and have no plans to move out. The mother of the child lives with them, her cousin/boyfriend, the child she was with my boyfriend and the child she had with her cousin. So why would this be an issue with the court to them?
If they continue trying to obtain custody, what will happen if he doesn't object but she does? How will this effect him and the divorce proceedings to get the decree finalized?