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    Default Re: Ncp Arrested for DWI

    there is a pattern and I know because i lived with it.
    He can get blasted out of his skull as often as he pleases, and it will make no difference to the courts unless the children are proven to be in imminent danger. As Doggie pointed out, that means they'd have to be in the car when he snagged a DWI, or he'd have to be so incapacitated by alcohol that one of the kids got into something they ought not have.

    As things stand, the court is going to be largely unsympathetic to you position, since you obviously found him suitable enough to make little people with in the first place. I know it's not what you want to hear, but reality can be a really harsh mistress some days.

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    Default Re: Ncp Arrested for DWI

    Agreed, Missy.

    I suppose I just find it a little troubling that originally it was about Dad allegedly making threads to keep the kids (of which there was no proof), and now this - I can't help but wonder if Mom is looking for a reason not to send the kids. Any reason.

    I hope I'm wrong.

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    No it isn't. I had already resigned myself to taking them and I already have a car reserved to go so no. You don't know my whole situation, history etc. You're more than welcome to speculate all you'd like.

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    Default Re: Ncp Arrested for DWI

    We don't have to speculate.


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    You don't know my whole situation, history etc.
    You know, there really isn't any need to drip snotty on the shoes of the volunteers. We work with the information you give us and the attitude you project, and if the attitude you project gives people the wrong impression such that you feel you need to stomp your little foot and holler "You don't know my life!", you've really no one to blame but yourself.

    Maybe consider in the future not spending so much time publicly seeking to thwart a court order?

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    Here's the deal I have everything ready to take them but I am SCARED of what's going to happen. My kids don't have a close relationship with their dad and there has been domestic violence at every turn (not just with me but subsequent females as well and my kids were there when it would happen) along with alcohol problems etc. It's a lot harder to pull tour kids out of a scary and potentially dangerous situation when you are across the country. Unless you have ever been in this position you can't truly understand it.

    And yes I have proof of all of those situations since that seems to come into question all the time.

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    Default Re: Ncp Arrested for DWI

    Unless you have ever been in this position you can't truly understand it.
    Yeah, this isn't helping you, either. You'd be amazed at what people understand. Doggie's a step-Mom. I've been the kid yanked out of a TRULY dangerous situation by a third party. Parents grew pot in the basement and dealt in the living room, CPS was at our house weekly, my siblings and I went to school bruised to a fare-thee-well? DUI convictions for both parents? The courts said "Enh, whatevs." It took my father nearly killing me - coma, brain surgery, physical therapy! - for the courts to decide that yes, actually, I was in danger.

    So before you get your britches in a bunch about how no one knows your life and can't possibly understand? Think about how foolish you look to people who've been there, done that, and have the blood soaked t-shirt.

    Look, we get that you're worried for your kids. But, again, the courts are not going to be sympathetic to your attempts to undermine the visitation orders, because, again, this is the person you willingly CHOSE to make babies with, and now you have to share them. That he's slapped girlfriends and you around is irrelevant, unless he has slapped the kids around, too. (And even then...)

    The simple fact of the matter is that until something actually harms the children, you have no grounds to get the order modified to suit you. "He might" and "he threatened" are completely irrelevant to the courts. Either he did, or he didn't. Right now, he didn't, and you're going to have to work with that.

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