Well of course it's better that they aren't present but this for me represents our history. Even when we were married he would be drunk in the middle of the day (I had to get the kids a babysitter out of the home because of this). He IS an alcoholic and has been in rehab twice and was court ordered to AA I don'tknow how many times now (and it will likely happen again once Missouri process him through the courts)..... there is a pattern and I know because i lived with it.