OP, I think you are mis-reading the intent of Pandora's post. (I don't think) Pandora was advocating you get an abortion. She was indicating that you could get assistance with birth control going forward if you are unable to afford that protection.
I responsed to you, and perhaps others did as well, under a basic assumption that with strained finances and two children you wouldn't plan to increase the stress by creating another baby. You indicate that the child was planned however, and that just emphasizes the need for future financial planning. Wasn't the argument that brought this situation to a head over money? Yet, after that fight and his arrest you choose to create a child which can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to raise rather than investing in some classes to help your husband control his behavior? The priorities here seem out of whack
Perhaps your husband will get lucky in court. I am much less hopeful for you in this marriage. I hope I am wrong. Good luck

