So no calls, no visits, very sporadic if best child support, a COMPLETE absent biological parent. A stable suitable father figure married to mom living with the children acting as father in EVERY aspect. To whom the children desire to be their "legal" parent doesn’t qualify as a case the courts would allow a step parent adoption on. WOW so what would. That wasn’t the question tho it was about allowing the name change NOT to remove all parental rights. Though he has really relinquished all of them by moving to who knows where and ceasing any and all contact years ago.