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NO AGENCY

Agency- : the capacity, condition, or state of acting or of exerting power

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/agency

I had no agency in regard to her PREGNANCY

Meaning during the 9 months she carried that thing I had no input, no say so, no chance to abort it now im stuck with a child i dont want

What i am saying sounds very harsh But i am telling you the truth.

This is a baby from a complete stranger that i had sex with back in high school days.
yes we both agreed to have sex but we BOTH DID NOT agree on having a baby

My life is over
Did you really refer to your child as a "Thing"? GROW UP!!!

You need to start looking into the future and learn from the past. You are going to pay child support. From what you stated this woman would be crazy to allow you to opt out. You are a soon to be college grad and planning to go to grad school and she has children and no means to support them all. Why would she turn down money from you? I am shocked that she agree to it. But it in the state hands so she can to agree to whatever the state still going after you.

Bright side, by the time you are finish paying child support 14+ years from now you should be making "real" money. Meaning most of the child support paid will coming from 0 and up instead starting when you well into your career, making good money. Huge huge difference.

That child is your family now. The mother is water, the child blood. Just do the best that you can to keep yourself on pace and letting your child know and learn about your side of its family. It is okay to follow your dreams and if it means allowing another man raise your child so be it. But at least give your child respect as you would your nieces, nephews and small cousins. They are all your family members, especially including this child you refer to as a "thing".