My girlfriend is au pair with J-1 Visa in the US, I am US citizen. Her visa expires in 71 days, and I want for her to stay, she wants to stay, and naturally I want her to stay too. Marriage is on the table, but both of us would rather not rush into that just for residency, and we'd rather have a proper wedding at our leisure, when both of our families can attend, which would take months of coordination. However if her visa were to expire she would be forced to leave for a minimum of two years, which absolutely no one wants. I have a family law lawyer, but he doesn't know about this. I'd like to do as much paperwork myself as possible, but I can have him do my filings for me. As normal with bureaucracy, I understand things take time, but we're getting down to a deadline.
I appreciate any help that anyone can provide.

