I believe I have an Odd situation here, If any situation at all.
My name is Brandon. I was born September of 1986. My biological father, was with my mother, If even this long, until June of 1987. (Aprox. 9 months, no longer than 1 year.) They were never married. He is on my birth certificate as my "father"
Heres the story.
(keep in mind, I dont know my real father, where he lives, what he does, through out all this, untill I state later on)
Sometime in 1989 (I am 2 years old, almost 3), My mother marries another man (They have been together since late 1988), and have my sister. No child support has ever been requested/issued, etc. My parents(Mother and step father) made pretty decent cash, My mother never tried for child support, because she didnt want my "Abusive" father around me, and I guess, If he pays child support, then he has visitation rights
Sometime in 1996 (I am 9 years old, almost 10) My parents divorce (Mother and Step father) I am NOW, informed, that my step father is not my legal father, and they show me my birth certificate, explain, etc.
September 13, 1998 (I am 11, almost 12) My mother dies. I move in with my grandmother and grandfather of my mothers family. (My sister goes with her father, my step father). My grandparents are issued a monthly check for taking care of me, from my mothers social security (or however that works). Roughly, 740 a month. (This was not spent very wisely throughout my years of living with them)
May 2004, I move out while in 11th grade. I move into my (Ex step fathers home, along w/ my girlfriend of 2.5 years) I changed the social security check into my name, and started receiving the money.
May 2006, Problems arrise, I move back into my grandparents, whom have raised me since my mothers death. (Social security stopped in may of 2005)
December 2006 - Upon browsing car forums (I am into drag racing etc.), I find a guy, living in Florida, whom is selling a lot of corvette parts. I read (Looking for some parts for a swap), and at the bottom is the man's name. The same name on my birth certificate as my father.
So, I messaged him, found out it WAS him. (He wrote me a few stories, we swapped some information only He or I could know, he sent me some baby pictures of me, that my mom also had from when I was roughly 6 months, etc.) He claims me as his own, etc.
We have met 3 times since. He lives 2 hours from me.
I am now in college (Actually, My first day and first class of college starts in 4.5 hours, and I have not slept yet.)
I dont have a vehicle of my own. I am using an extra car that my aunt has for transportation, and some work.
I am seriously strugging for paying all of this. My family suggests that I request back child support from my father, whom is doing pretty well for himself.
I have mentioned to him a few times, about stuggling with money, he hasnt not once offered any help, In fact, one time for dinner, I ended having to pay (not that I expected everything to be a free ride, but c'mon, 19 years of non existance, and we meet for dinner, and i get stuck w/ the bill?)
He will then talk about, oh, Race entry fee if 350 for sunday, and how he is buying a kayak, and hes going to start flying, kayaking, and skydiving. All in the same 30 minute conversation that I am talking about strugging for cash for a car, college, food, etc.
He offered 1 time for me to move in w/ him, and he'd help me through college, I was like WOW! Maybe he'll pay. Then he talks about how he'll need this much for rent, utilities, etc.
I live w/ my grandparents for free if I goto school.
So here goes.
I am 19 years old, (20 in september). Can I, or my grandparents request back child support? He has not made 1 payment my entire life, nor has tried. I didnt even know what he was, where he was, or who he was until I was 19 years old.
If I can go about requesting this, would the person have to me myself, or my grandparents? I am a legal adult, so everyone has told me that I can do it, if it is even possible. If it is possible, what are my first steps in doing so? I havn't mentioned any of this to my biological father, or my grandparents yet.
He is single (no other children), has a 250-300,000 dollar house, 3 vehicles, including a 2004 commemoritive corvette (only 2000 were made), and from looking up salaries of his occupation, he makes roughly 70,000 a year.
These little online back child support calculators are giving me a figure of roughly 85,000 that he owes (That would well fund me through college for a bit of time)
I am sorry for this being so long, but I want whoever can help me out, to know everything that I can think of right now.
Thank you all whom have read, and even more thanks for responding.