My question involves restraining orders in the State of: NJ
Girlfriend and I broke up Dec 27. *She told me to get out of her life and lose her number or else shed be sure i did. *She cursed me out and said i waa going to get my karma. (keep in mind she wanted the breakup, i did not cheat or treat her badly) *
Following that I made contact through texts, some good and some bad but not threatening. *She never answered. *Jan 2 she responded to a text telling me that there was no other guy, that she just needed space etc. *and to not contact her. *Of course I was hurt emotionally and contacted her a few days later being upset but never threatening her. *I later found out a day after that she changed her phone number. *But I was not told this by her that it was because of me. *I sent two emails basically saying I was shocked and hurt and disappointed in her and that I hope she gets her karma. *A week later I sent her two requests to play a game over the phone and included a chat were I said basically same stuff like why did this happen and I'm sorry and etc etc. *she declined both games
Last night my friend, who was her previous best friend dropped her belongings next to her car at a friends on, the car was in the street, not in private driveway. * I sent her one final messsage through the phone game and was very nasty calling names out of frustration but did not threaten or harm her.
Today I recieved a TRO saying harassing repeatedly through texts, emails, n games on phone. *And it mentioned defendemt found stuff by her car. *But I have no license, I did not put it there. My friend said she would come to court and say it.
Keep in mind ive seen her out at bar twice before the TRO and been within 5 ft of her, not on purpose, and have not spoken or done anything to her in person. *
Cops tried going to my house to deliver TRO but I was at a restaurant. *I was "tagged" in Facebook and am friends with her friends do they must have saw That I was there. *They all arrived at the restaurant/bar and literally an hour later the two cops came n delivered the TRO to me. *If she wants a restraining order then why go to where I was on purpose? *They basically mocked the whole process and found me and called the cops.
Also keep in mind that she has gone up to friends of mine at bars within past week or two and slandered my name and claimed I was physcho n such.
I have court hearing in two days...should I just deal with the RO and not show up? *
Or should I try to fight it and say it was normal break up frustration and I never threatened her, if anything she threatened me about getting out of her life and losing her number. *
And visited same exact place on the day she files for the TRO, basically on purpose.
Do you think the RO will be granted? *I showed no real harm to her, just the nasty text name calling, but it's only been weeks since rough break up and I was hurt.