I don't believe you even realize your complicity and guilt in this. Dad may have his issues, however you are the one who kept him form his son all those years because he was arrested. That kind of order is not given just for shits n giggles by a judge. You don't want him to have a relationship with his son I believe. I think you only put forth the minimum effort required to be in compliance with the law, because you wish dad would go away and leave your happy family alone. You need to make dad aware he is welcome to see his son and make sure the son is aware of the same. Try to help their relationship grow. Your husband needs to reinforce that he is not the only dad in this child's life.

