All of this just came about this week. I am in the process of finding a counselor for him now . He stated that the last time he was there over 2 years ago, his bio dad grabbed both arms and would not release him until he started to call him dad. I don't agree with that. My son does not feel safe there because he has seen and heard all the threats and he was at home(mine) when bio dad came and hid on our property and cut tires on our vehicles, as well as the time he threatened to beat up my husband because my husband and son have such a strong bond due to him always being there when bio dad choose not to when drugs and alcohol were his priorities. The visit is tomorrow from 10-6 and I have asked that bio dad and his mother(supervisor) come a little early so that my son would feel more comfortable if he saw us all together, they refuse and said they would handle him. I am scared of my son not wanting to get in their car and bio dad(who has dv history with me) while forcefully make him. Then what do I do? That would make him more scared and then think I can't or won't protect him . But if I do stop it I can be held in contempt. How are you suppose to handle something like this?
Also bio dad is still on probation and has had over 16 arrests 8 felonies concerning drugs and theft and 3 dwi's on his record. I have all of his rap sheet and arrests but apparently it doesn't matter what kind of person he is, as long as he wants to see the child.

