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    Default My Pregnant Ex Girlfriend is Going to Move Out of Idaho Back to Montana

    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Idaho/Montana
    My pregnant ex has been forcing me to not visit her doctor appointments and she has just recently told me that shes moving back to montana. When i had asked her "what about me?" she had answerd "i dunno". so i get the feeling she wanted to break up, but she didnt act this way when we first started dating.
    She plans on going to school and completly leaving me behind. there was no talk between me and her. she just made this desicion on her own. i no longer feel the love i once felt for her. She is 4 or 5 months pregnant and plans to move asap. every desicion that has been made (name, activities for the child and even school choices) have all been her ideas and it is all becaused "thats how she was raised". Do i have any official power at this time? or am i a little s.o.l.?
    Im pretty sure im the dad, but whatever is going on through her mind doesnt include me. i would like to just have visitations but with how bad she has been treating me i almost just want to go for full custody, but i know that is a risk to try. so please if there is anything i can do to ensure i get to be part of my childs life more than payin child support (even though she said she wouldnt force me to do that) i will gladly work for it.

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    Default Re: My Pregnant Ex Girlfriend is Going to Move Out of Idaho Back to Montana

    Unfortunately you have no rights at all at the moment, and you cannot prevent Mom from moving to Montana. If she does so before giving birth, Montana will have jurisdiction and you'll have to file there (after the child is born) to establish paternity and some sort of custody, and a firm visitation plan.

    Please don't even think about going for "full custody" just because Mom is pissing you off.

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    Default Re: My Pregnant Ex Girlfriend is Going to Move Out of Idaho Back to Montana

    Do i have any official power at this time?
    "You poke it, you own it." is male entitlement complex, not law. You have zero power over her now, and you never had any to begin with. You have NEVER had the right to attend her doctor's appointments with her, and you wouldn't have them even if you were married. At the moment, you are legally no one to the child she is carrying, so she gets to make ALL of the decisions on behalf of that child, and will continue to be able to do so unless and until you establish paternity and get a court order for visitation.

    Don't simply acknowledge paternity. File for a DNA test, because we really are not going to be able to help you when you come back here in a couple years, asking how to get child support stopped because it came out that the child isn't yours. Get that settled right after the birth.

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    Default Re: My Pregnant Ex Girlfriend is Going to Move Out of Idaho Back to Montana

    ok you were right i was gonna try for full out of anger, but she has changed so much since she found out. she treats me like im a nobody, she doesnt even want me near her appointments. when we first started dating everything was cool, but now anytime we talk or even if my family tries to talk she just gets pissed. my family has done nothing wrong and everytime they try to be nice or start a conversation she just ignores them. So i WILL be a part of this child's life, i just wish me and the mom were on better terms...so anyway go get a dna test for proof that the child is mine? and then wait for the child to be born? how long do i have to wait after the baby is born do anything, secondly i dont think she will even tell me when she is going into labor (whenever that happens) so how can i do anything if i never know when the child is born? also thanks for the info, this does help me.

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    Default Re: My Pregnant Ex Girlfriend is Going to Move Out of Idaho Back to Montana

    The court will not order a dna paternity test in utero. You have to wait until the child is actually born.

    You can file the day the child is born, as a practical matter. Of course you'll have to know where Mom is.

    Please also bear in mind that Mom is likely a hormonal wreck at the moment. Maybe she just needs some space.

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