My question involves adoption law for the State of: Washington and Idaho

Hi, I recently found out an Ex girlfriend of mine was pregnant, we currently are not on good or even talking terms really.

As of now the only contact I could make with her is via text messaging, and at that it's very easy to block numbers and that would be a very real possibility.

She feels that she's not at a place in her life where she feels she can be responsible for a child and/or feels that it would threaten her lifestyle.

I am willing to take responsibility of the child fully.

There has been very little talk, but I recently have made it clear my intentions, that I am not trying to pursue anything from her, relationship or otherwise, but that if she is going to adopt our child away, I want custody.

She currently is 3.5 months pregnant and lives in Idaho.

I am a resident of Washington State.

I'm looking for advice as to what I could be going through, possible outcomes, risks and consequences.

This is a big thing for me and I want to do whats best for me and this child but in the back of my mind, I also still care about this woman too, even though she is making it clear that she feels I am trying to meddle with her choice of adoption, I shouldn't get between her and her choice and that she is a force to be reckoned with.