My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Illinois
We were engaged for 4 years and our son is 3. We lived together in an apartment and then eventually moved into my grandmother and parents house. There were rules under my grandmother who owns the house that there was to be no drinking considering he had a drinking problem in the past. Those rules were broken. He was a good father sober but neglected to consider what was important for our child when he was drunk. Responsibilities and priorities were never in his agenda. I've held a job for 3 years with promotion and he has lost 3 jobs since we've been together. Also, he has not worked in over a year.
Verbally abusive to me and my family in front of our child, and also when alone in the house with his son after coming home drunk and under the influence of many prescription medications, overdosed on over the counter cough medicine and slit his wrists open. Death threats from his family members to me and my family. Restraining order in progress. Now he wants to see his son on HIS terms and I do not agree with this at all. He refuses to agree to pay half of my sons new school since he doesn't want him in school so he can see him Monday through Friday.
My only questions are if and when I bring this into family court, what are things I can mention and things I can't mention because of irrelevance? Who can be a witness to his actions besides the police officers who were often at the house? If his family member has a reported death threat on my family member can that exlude that person from visitation?
Thank you

