I suggest you contact the DA’s office and ask if there is a victim advocate on staff. If yes, pose the question to them. I hesitate to believe an order restricts him from communicating with your family or mutual friends, but go to the source and be certain.
Are you in counseling? Are you working with the local domestic violence outreach program? If not, please consider reaching out to the nearest local advocate (find one by going to AARDVARC’s site and checking resources by state) and talk with them. Your emotional turmoil is evident in your posts. I hope you are working to surround yourself with people that understand DV and can support you through the process of trial. Your experience can not be validated or negated by the court process, so please don’t seek the court to give you that experience. It sets you up for disappointment. You know what happened and a good counselor (and maybe a DV support group) can help you deal with the situation and help your find closure that no court verdict can provide.
The local DV advocate can tell you what you might expect during the trial.
Good luck.

