Unfortunately for most men, they under report or minimize the origins of such violence and neglect the significance of a moment like this. Just as women have to recognize the cues and triggers to a violent incident, so do men. I have been trying to minimize my sarcasm and unsolicited advice, but in this case he needs to really understand how serious this issue could have been. She tried to bash him over the head with a freakin skillet! This is one of those "by the greace of God" she didn't kill me type of situations. Hopefully the OP understands that the alcohol is one of the smallest components to this debacle. The most disturbing thing is this quote:
That's the one that the one people regret saying right before they take that last breath.

