My question involves child support in the State of: Texas
Child concieved in NY (my home state) - Due to be born in TX in 8 weeks.
My ex girlfriend and I had a verbal agreement that under no circumstances would we have children together. She assured me that she would take birth control, and have an abortion if she ever got pregnant. She missed a bunch of birth control pills and got pregnant two months before graduating college and moving back to Texas. I have a handwritten note from her admitting that she didn't take all of her birth control and misled me into believing she'd have an abortion.
She has two other children in TX under the full custody of her parents. She is still legally married to their father, who those two kids also have no relationship with.
It have good reason to believe that she did set a trap and do this intentionally. I have offered to work things out and move to TX to be with her and raise this child together - she rejects it. I have offered to come to visit, her and her family will not allow me to stay. She now says things to me like "kids dont need dads to grow up" and "kids who dont have dads turn out just as well as kids who do." She says "If I dont get married by the time I'm 35, I'm going to a sperm bank so I can have another baby without compromising with a man." - To give you an idea of what type of unstable person I'm dealing with.
My questions are:
1) Should I be present at the birth - Can I be present without putting my name on the birth certificate or signing an acknowledgement of paternity? I'm very suspicious of why she wants me present at the birth.
2) Should I stay out of TX? My top choice of graduate schools is in Texas. I am afraid to go there now because of this happening.
3) What should I expect as far as child support and custody arrangements go? I am not currently working and will graduate with my BA in 6 months. I plan on spending the next two years getting my MS.Ed.
What I want:
1) No child support order - due to the fact that I was tricked into this situation and she moved 2,000 miles away a month after getting pregnant. She claims that she will not pursue child support, but my understanding is that in TX the second my name ends on on a birth certificate, or she collects welfare, that I'm liable for support.
2) Summers with my daughter, in NY. She claims that she'll let me do this whether or not I'm paying child support. I don't believe her.
3) Maybe in a few years when I'm ready and capable - full custody.
Thank you in advance for your time and consideration.

