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    Default Daughter Wants to Live with Me. She is 16. Mom Willing to Terminate All Rights

    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Tennessee

    My ex has had custody of my daughter for about 12 years. I tried to fight it, but did not succeed years ago because my lawyer whom I hired in GA was not able to practice in TN and I wasn't aware that TN had jurisdiction. To get to the present point though. My daughter has some how convinced her mom to let her move in with me. I am super excited! The down side though...she will not let her move in with me until I pay and file for her to terminate all of her parental rights. She thinks if we do this she will not have to pay child support. I do not want child support, but I also know they have changed this law. She also says if she gets into trouble (which I seriously doubt she will) she doesn't want to go to jail over her actions. She is telling my daughter if you move in with your father, don't ever come back. She doesn't want her to visit or anything. My daughter also has half siblings that she is going to miss a lot when she moves in with me. She is not going to get to see them if her mom continues to act like this. I believe it is all a guilt trip thing, but once we terminate rights there is no going back. I feel like we should modify the custody in our divorce, but I know she will not be willing because you have to put some type of child support in the order. At least that is what I heard. I am in a hurry to get this done..so my daughter does not have to put up with all the emotional guilt trip my ex has been giving her for years just for liking it over here must less wanting to move over here. I know she is going through a lot of stress right now listening to her mom whine and whiper. I know it is bad but I also feel like her mom is dependent on her child support and SSI check that she is recieving from her. So that is a couple of reasons she is carrying on. She has a low paying job and she supports her husband, her other two children, and one of his child fulltime and the other part time with just her income and my daughters. So what would you do in a sticky situation like this? My daughter draws SSI because she has heart problems and has since she was born. I know she will be better off with me. Her mother has not even tried to help her get her learner license, and she continues to treat her like a baby. She makes her go to bed at 8pm. She is not allowed to go outstide during school days etc. Then she wonders why she wants to move in with me. BTW she will be 17 in Febuary. We live in GA and that is the legal adult age..but as of right now she lives in TN which is 18. I know this is really messed up...I just would like to know what you would do? Should I pay for her to terminate all of her parental rights? modify custody papers? or I even looked at getting her emancipated that way her mom would be free and clear of child support and she could make her own decisions.

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    Default Re: Daughter Wants to Live with Me. She is 16. Mom Willing to Terminate All Rights

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    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Tennessee

    My ex has had custody of my daughter for about 12 years. I tried to fight it, but did not succeed years ago because my lawyer whom I hired in GA was not able to practice in TN and I wasn't aware that TN had jurisdiction. To get to the present point though. My daughter has some how convinced her mom to let her move in with me. I am super excited!
    The minor child should not be making this decision.


    The down side though...she will not let her move in with me until I pay and file for her to terminate all of her parental rights. She thinks if we do this she will not have to pay child support. I do not want child support, but I also know they have changed this law.

    Which law do you think has changed? In neither GA nor TN can a parent simply terminate their parental rights unless there is a stepparent willing to adopt and take on the role of parent. If that was the case, the parent would no longer be responsible for child support.

    She also says if she gets into trouble (which I seriously doubt she will) she doesn't want to go to jail over her actions. She is telling my daughter if you move in with your father, don't ever come back. She doesn't want her to visit or anything. My daughter also has half siblings that she is going to miss a lot when she moves in with me. She is not going to get to see them if her mom continues to act like this. I believe it is all a guilt trip thing, but once we terminate rights there is no going back.

    So far, that's not going to happen, period.


    I feel like we should modify the custody in our divorce, but I know she will not be willing because you have to put some type of child support in the order. At least that is what I heard.

    What? No, that's not right.


    I am in a hurry to get this done..so my daughter does not have to put up with all the emotional guilt trip my ex has been giving her for years just for liking it over here must less wanting to move over here. I know she is going through a lot of stress right now listening to her mom whine and whiper. I know it is bad but I also feel like her mom is dependent on her child support and SSI check that she is recieving from her. So that is a couple of reasons she is carrying on. She has a low paying job and she supports her husband, her other two children, and one of his child fulltime and the other part time with just her income and my daughters. So what would you do in a sticky situation like this?

    Dad, I have to ask. Exactly how involved are you in your daughter's life?

    Are you absolutely sure that this isn't a typical teen wanting to change the circumstances?


    My daughter draws SSI because she has heart problems and has since she was born. I know she will be better off with me. Her mother has not even tried to help her get her learner license, and she continues to treat her like a baby. She makes her go to bed at 8pm. She is not allowed to go outstide during school days etc. Then she wonders why she wants to move in with me.
    Google the term "Disney parent".


    BTW she will be 17 in Febuary. We live in GA and that is the legal adult age..but as of right now she lives in TN which is 18.

    No, that is NOT the age of majority in GA. But even if it was, TN law would apply.

    I know this is really messed up...I just would like to know what you would do? Should I pay for her to terminate all of her parental rights? modify custody papers? or I even looked at getting her emancipated that way her mom would be free and clear of child support and she could make her own decisions.

    Your daughter absolutely does not - in any way - qualify for emancipation.

    So that leaves you with modifying custody. And not only are you wanting to modify custody, you're wanting to relocate her out of the state's jurisdiction.

    Have you and Mom actually talked about this?

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