My question involves criminal law for the state of: Mass
My 23 y o son was stopped and arrested for DUI. He has little memory of the incident, but remembers spending time in jail and posted his own bond of 500 dollars.
He has to appear in court in 2 days. He has a fairly clean record, although was involved in an auto accident 3 yrs ago and was cited for driving to endanger, but charges were dropped since he went into the military.
I think he has a problem with stupid decision making, especially when under the influence, but not a real problem with alcohol. But he is a problem child, and I see jail coming his way if he doesn't change his lifestyle. He does not hold down a job, has no education, and makes some money playing in poker tournaments, but overall, he is scraping by. I kicked him out a year ago, because I hated his lifestlye.
So, what should he expect? Loss of license for how long? How much will fines be? ball park of 1000 or 5000? Will he have to go to a court ordered program? Should he get himself to AA to show remorse and a change in attitude and behavior. I think AA will be good for him, and I am so upset and distressed over his horrible decisons, actions, lifestyle etc, I almost wish he would get jail time so he will see how serious this is.
He has a learning disability, and I think his head is just not on straight, and when you contrast that with his poor choice in friends, alcohol or drugs, his life is out of control, and he will end up on the streets unless he changes, and that will definitely lead to jail time.
I am torn between helping him as his mother, and just letting him dig out of his own hole. I know the judge will go easier on him if he shows remorse, shows initiative to change and has family support. But I am so mad at him for doing this to himself and his family, and how he has blown all opportunitites in the past. He really needs some help, and I cannot give him what he needs.
Thanks for all advice of any kind. Just wondering what he should expect. It will be difficult for him to be without a car, and not having transportation to AA, work programs or counseling, let alone a job.