My question involves restraining orders in the State of: New Jersey
I'm 19 years old right now and legally, I am a dependent. My parents are divorced now and what my mom pays for are my auto and health insurance. I live with my dad and he pays for my college tuition and provides housing. However, when my dad takes business trips abroad (usually a week long to a month long), my mom would come live with my brother & me. Unfortunately, there was a long history of verbal abuse (calling me useless, said I should've been aborted, etc) and occasional physical abuse in the past. I do see a counselor and I am prescribed antidepressants for all this; but that is all without my mom's knowledge. Whenever she is home, my depressive episodes always increase 10 fold and I go without sleep on many nights. She won't leave me alone where it's borderline harassment. I recently adopted a kitten because I do have faith in pet therapy but my mom hates my kitten and threatens to get her declawed (even though I'm under contract with the adoption agency saying that I won't do that).
I understand that I'm still financially reliant on her but I want to make it so that I don't have to be in the same house as her, ever. There are always issues and fights and I am stressed out all the time. I just can't deal with her anymore or I would seriously just kill myself because I'm tired of what has been on-going for 19 years. I do work part-time and I'm a full time student at the state university so it's not like I have nothing going for me.
Also, my brother would definitely testify for me as he was also constantly victimized by my mother. Last year, during his junior year in high school, he became depressed and would skip school. This all escalated until he dropped out of high school and when he was put on antidepressants, my parents stopped him after 3 months because of future "health issues", or should I say ignorant superstitions.
So is it reasonable to get a restraining order against her? Would the judge grant me this?

