My question involves a child custody case from the State of: NJ

I am divorced with a parenting time order established in the Matrimonial Settlement. The existing order provides me with overnight visits each Wednesday and alternating Friday, Saturday and Sunday overnights. Settlement also provides each parent with "2 weeks of non-consecutive uninterrupted parenting time", provided notice is provided within 30 days of the start of said time. In the event of conflict, wife will have first choice in odd years and husband in even years.

Child's mother scheduled a week long vacation with child to fall over the course of my scheduled weekend visitation. I did not oppose the scheduling of her vacation time, because she holds the "tiebreaker" for this odd numbered year. I asked to re-schedule my four "lost" overnights with child over the course of four Tuesday evenings, in order to provide myself and my daughter with a series of consecutive overnights, in order to offset the period during which I will see her only 3 out of 24 days, and with 14 consecutive days between visits.

Child's mother has arbitrarily denied my proposal, and this morning "offered" me a choice of either this coming weekend, or the weekend after she returns from vacation with my daughter - both of which I am unable to accept, due to having made prior plans, as these are weekends where my daughter would normally be scheduled to be with her mother. I am unable to change my plans at this late date.

Child's mother claims to have plans on all of the Tuesday nights that I have suggested (I have suggested 5 options over the course of the next 6 weeks), though refuses to provide any substantiation of such plans.

Child's mother also claims that she owes me no make-up time, because she will be re-marrying in October and taking a week long honeymoon, during which my daughter will stay with me. I believe this is irrelevant to the current vacation schedule for two reasons:

1. That time is over a month away, and during the preceding month, I face substantial alienation from my daughter due to seeing her only 3 days over the course of 24.

2. I believe that our settlement allows for "make-up" parenting time for a parent due to necessary business travel or other reasons (such as vacation of the other parent with child) out of the "making-up" parent's control. I do not believe that "make-up" parenting time is provided when a parent elects to travel for pleasure without the child.

I feel that my daughter's mother is acting maliciously and contemptuously, in trying to deny me visitation with my daughter. I am hesitant to file a motion with the Court without certainty of my rights, because I am very financially stressed, and the mother will attempt to claim attorney fees from me if at all possible, and uses this as a means to attempt to coerce me into accepting her dictates.

Sorry for the lengthiness of my post - Advice is appreciated.

I should also note here that I have also been attempting to increase my parenting time with my daughter to include every Tuesday overnight. I have sought the additional Tuesday overnights, due to the structure of the current parenting time arrangement leaving me with 6 consecutive days, every other week, without physical visitation with my daughter. This was accepted as part of the original settlement due to our daughter being a preschooler, but she is now school-aged, and I believe it is beneficial that I spend more consecutive-day visits with her. Child's mother has refused to agree to this, and I am pursuing mediation, as required by our matrimonial settlement prior to Court action.

I've attempted to schedule "make-up" parenting time for her vacation, in line with the schedule that I wish to pursue in mediation, as I hope to be able to schedule said mediation at some point in the near future to address this anyway. I am limited in when mediation can be scheduled, due to my ex's vacation/wedding/honeymoon plans.