15 Year Old Pregnant by 18 Year Old Boy

[byrdnmoon]

You guys aren't getting it at all.

See, in byrdnmoon's world, the responsibility must be shared by both the 15 year old and the adult who molested her. Because if it's not, that means her own little angel child 19 year old is guilty, and she doesn't want him to be.

Thus, the 15 year old must be equally responsible. Which is completely reprehensible when you consider that in her own case, the 15 year old is her own daughter and the 19 year old she is so fiercely defending is not even a foster son, though she calls him that.

This lady is beneath contempt.

Excuse me but you know nothing about me or my family so I suggest you not even go critisizing something you know nothing about. My son is my son regardless of what some prick on the internet thinks and what does my 15 yo have anything to do with this? I commented on this forum to help this young lady, nothing more. I am in a totally different situation that does not pertain to this. So take your off topic, RUDE, Un true comments somewhere they are wanted. You arent even interested in giving people the answers they need. You get on here and critisize people for NO Apparent reason. Go get a l;ife and find something better to do than to disrespect people and there families!

Lets face it everyone is going to view this situation as they please. Im not argueing anymore.

[cbg]

I know what you've posted, lady, and I stand by my response.

[byrdnmoon]

And to reiterate your FALSE statement about my son, he is not guilty and I know that. Maybe you should take the time out of critisizing familes to look in the mirror because any person who would say something like that about a family they have never met has serious issues they need to work with themselves.

I know what you've posted, lady, and I stand by my response.

I posted asking if my son could be found guilty for something he did not do based off of evidence that isnt substanial. So again take your comments somewhere else. This wasnt even my post but you had to get on here and critisize someone to make yourself feel better. Thats okay. You continue and I have Faith that you'll be put in your place someday.

[cbg]

And you will be in yours, toots. Only I'll find my place a lot more tolerable than you will yours.

cbg out.

[byrdnmoon]

I was put in my place long ago and I've been comfortable with who I am since. So eat your words. And what kind of person announces his departure?

[PandorasBox]

Parental responsibility includes these:
WHERE is your kid? WHO is your kid with? WHAT is your did doing? WHEN....HOW....WHY....

If the parents of this girl knew she was dating an 18 year old ADULT, then they need to face appropriate charges also. They also need to (if they have not already) get her appropriate medical care - even if it means they face charges, or the 18 year old faces charges.

And yes, while the 15 year HOPEFULLY was taught Sex Ed...the legal fact remains that at 15, she is UNDER THE AGE OF CONSENT. No matter how much her and her b/f are "in love".

At 18, he also knows that 18+15 = prison.

Do you have any idea how hard her life will be? She will be raising a baby, while trying to complete a high school education. She won't be participating in sports or going to school events, hanging out at the mall with friends....she will be busy feeding a baby, calming down a crying baby, changing diapers, cleaning up baby puke, dressing a baby, taking a baby to the doctor....wait til the baby starts teething and is crying a lot....

She will need things like diapers, baby food, car seat, high chair, crib, clothes, baby monitors, medications, regular medical care for her and the child...some kind of child care....it's not going to be a cakewalk for her. This is expensive, even if she receives assistance.

Department of Children and Families will be on her ass, and that of her family. They will be watching her closely. She will likely have a case worker. That case worker may check in on her and the baby randomly, so she will have to be on her best behavior.

School....kids can be cruel. Her peers may no longer accept her. She may be called names like "slut". She may have unwelcomed male attention since they know she has had sex.

And look at the Casey Anthony case, for an example. Young mom who wanted to party. Dead toddler.
Or a case in Michigan....Dominick. Young mom. Boyfriend beat/tortured the kid to death because he cried.
How about Diane Downs? Young mom of 2 or 3. Loved her boyfriend, who did not want kids. She killed her kids to be with the man.

Again, there are laws. We have stated them. We can't change them because of two people "being in love". Sure, voters have changed some laws, but I don't see anyone wanting to start a law to lower the age of consent.

[questions101]

Parental responsibility includes these:
WHERE is your kid? WHO is your kid with? WHAT is your did doing? WHEN....HOW....WHY....

If the parents of this girl knew she was dating an 18 year old ADULT, then they need to face appropriate charges also. They also need to (if they have not already) get her appropriate medical care - even if it means they face charges, or the 18 year old faces charges.

And yes, while the 15 year HOPEFULLY was taught Sex Ed...the legal fact remains that at 15, she is UNDER THE AGE OF CONSENT. No matter how much her and her b/f are "in love".

At 18, he also knows that 18+15 = prison.

Do you have any idea how hard her life will be? She will be raising a baby, while trying to complete a high school education. She won't be participating in sports or going to school events, hanging out at the mall with friends....she will be busy feeding a baby, calming down a crying baby, changing diapers, cleaning up baby puke, dressing a baby, taking a baby to the doctor....wait til the baby starts teething and is crying a lot....

She will need things like diapers, baby food, car seat, high chair, crib, clothes, baby monitors, medications, regular medical care for her and the child...some kind of child care....it's not going to be a cakewalk for her. This is expensive, even if she receives assistance.

Department of Children and Families will be on her ass, and that of her family. They will be watching her closely. She will likely have a case worker. That case worker may check in on her and the baby randomly, so she will have to be on her best behavior.

School....kids can be cruel. Her peers may no longer accept her. She may be called names like "slut". She may have unwelcomed male attention since they know she has had sex.

And look at the Casey Anthony case, for an example. Young mom who wanted to party. Dead toddler.
Or a case in Michigan....Dominick. Young mom. Boyfriend beat/tortured the kid to death because he cried.
How about Diane Downs? Young mom of 2 or 3. Loved her boyfriend, who did not want kids. She killed her kids to be with the man.

Again, there are laws. We have stated them. We can't change them because of two people "being in love". Sure, voters have changed some laws, but I don't see anyone wanting to start a law to lower the age of consent.

That is the most reasonable, level-headed response I have heard in the whole thread.

[DaveJames]

See thats the thing is your not realizing that alot of kids in todays generation dont live in the perfect little world that people hope for. They get neglected and sometimes abused and have to find a means to support themselves. Getting pregnant, or having sex period, is not that means but alot of young girls run towards it anyway.

Well we need to think about the child's well being also. We can't be irresponsible and end with a child that grows up with the same behavior. Hopefully the law will help deter this type of behavior and set a sample by punishing those that break it.

[PandorasBox]

I have a few friends who were young parents. Dave....I see where you are going.

Single parenthood is getting to be more common. A recent Detroit statistic shows that 40% of births there are single mothers.

As for my friends.....and these are stats over 20+ years:

L: The dad took her virginity. Called her a slut, whore, etc., when she became pregnant with HIS kid. The baby was raised by the mother alone. Daddy never paid child support, nor has met his daughter. In fact, an arrangement was made - you don't want your kid, you don't want to pay support...ok, but don't show up asking for visitation or anything until she is 18. Daughter is now a 19 year old mother herself (married first).

K: Her daughter graduated high school....though she is 6 months pregnant in her graduation photos. My friend is a 37-year-old GRANDmother.

D: Another 37-year-old grandmother....

Former friend - A: This one....yikes. 1st birth at 17. 4 kids, even more abortions by 23...None of her kids even have the same father. Hell, she could not even NAME the father of the last one (was it....him, him, him, him, or him.....yes, that many people within a 2-week period). Have not been in touch with her in years, and I really don't want to know how many more kids or abortions she has had.

Summary: I can't comment on A's kids. But the rest of them.....3/3 gave birth at a young age, and all are under 40 with grandchildren.

I agree with Dave...what kind of life will the baby have? Sure, much love. But when they turn into young parents themselves...do they have the chance to go to college? Is their self esteem so low they give in to peer pressure more easy, so they are becoming young parents themselves?

[elainemichele]

I also got pregnant with an 18 year old in FL Tampa area. I was exactly 15 yrs old. Was never a problem and it never even came up that I know of. This was 8 years ago but I wouldnt worry about it. Enjoy this special time, every child is a gift!