Which is why you've got to be REALLY careful regarding the people you make children with, and how you manage breakups and co-parenting with those people. Because more often than not, you're going to be tied to them for 18 years (or more).
The only way to guarantee that is to have chosen someone else as the other parent. If he's dad, you need to understand that if he WANTS to go through the process to establish and seek rights, he's GOING to get them, at some level - UNLESS he's shown to be a DIRECT danger to the child, is incarcerated for a life sentence or similar circumstance. If he hasn't been active in the child's life, then supervised visitation is absolutely reasonable and even predictable, but the reality is that dad is incredibly likely to be granted visitation by the court. Whether he'll actually USE it or not, you're in a better position to predict.I do not want him to get visitation rights at all.
Not really, no. BOTH sides are getting what they want. Dad is getting reimbursed for child support he's paying, and you're getting what you want in paying dad to stay away. The family court won't be happy with EITHER of you over this arrangement - dad for trying to get around the support order, and you for not only helping dad to do it, but also in the aspect of willfully working to keep dad away from the child (be prepared for the judge to tell you that such decisions get made by court)..Don't you think there is a blackmail case here though?
Which is good, because it's the state attorney who would bring the charge, and given that BOTH sides have agreed to manipulation of a family law matter, I'd be incredibly surprised if the state even thought about bringing a criminal charge.I don't want to charge him with it,
If you're willing to face the ire of the judge that you've been paying to keep a parent and child separated, that's your call. Be prepared for the judge to come down harder on YOU than on dad, and for dad to say that the whole thing was YOUR idea to keep him away (which could even open the door for dad to request custody on the grounds that you've alienated him). Not that such a change is likely, but BOTH sides are going to come out of this with mud on their faces, and the more mud you decide to fling into the air, the more can come back and hit you.but if he tries to get visitation I think I should throw it in his face.

