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    What makes you think he could get custody? He has visitation rights that you're telling us he does not even exercise. You should be able to easily document the financial transactions to the court, and may well have documentation of his threats (letters, emails, etc.). You say he's addicted to something, perhaps more than one thing; if we're talking drugs, there are drug tests.

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    cyjeff, that is exactly what I DON'T want. The Father does not want to be in the child's life and shouldn't be.

    aaron, well it seems that in every state, especially mine the courts do whatever they can to give both parents rights to the kids. The father does not want rights but he will go to court to get rights as part of spite and if I do not pay him. Yes, I have a letter that I signed out of fear saying I am paying his child support and he will stay out of the kids life. Drugs could be part of the addiction but not 100% sure, and it seems like anybody can buy something and pass a drug screening these days so don't want to depend on it. And right now he has no visitational rights, I have 100% custody. That is what he is threatning is to take that away if I don't pay.

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    Why would you sign a letter "out of fear" that you're giving him the CS back? What's his actual leverage on you? Something isn't making sense.

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    cyjeff, that is exactly what I DON'T want. The Father does not want to be in the child's life and shouldn't be.

    aaron, well it seems that in every state, especially mine the courts do whatever they can to give both parents rights to the kids. The father does not want rights but he will go to court to get rights as part of spite and if I do not pay him. Yes, I have a letter that I signed out of fear saying I am paying his child support and he will stay out of the kids life. Drugs could be part of the addiction but not 100% sure, and it seems like anybody can buy something and pass a drug screening these days so don't want to depend on it. And right now he has no visitational rights, I have 100% custody. That is what he is threatning is to take that away if I don't pay.


    Dad isn't getting custody. Take a deep breath.

    Stop paying him.

    SERIOUSLY. Stop paying him! Your CHILD is entitled to be supported by both parents. If he wants to file for visitation, let him file - chances are he won't bother anyway.

    And if he does? You can deal with that if it happens. But seriously he's not going to get custody unless he can somehow prove that you're unfit.

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    ollie, the last thing I want for my child is the father to get custody, he is a terrible person and has been blackmailing me. He says if I don't pay him he will fight to get custody back even though he doesn't want custody, just to make life hell for us. I don't care about the CS I just don't want him near the child.

    dogmatique, I sure hope you are right. I know he will file for custody, but I am just hoping he can't win. It just seems the courts do whatever they can to let both parents be apart. I am just hoping the court will see he is unfit, hasn't been in there life, and is blackmailing me.

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    In order for Dad to get custody at this point he'll need to either prove you unfit, or prove that a major change in circumstance of the child's life - like you moving in with a child molester, moving out of state, grades falling dramatically, etc.,

    STOP PAYING.

    He's bullying you. He can only do that if you allow it - you've got to empower yourself here. You're the one in control - don't allow him that kind of power over you

    If he files for visitation, you can request supervised visitation (being that he hasn't seen the child in 5 years) - you will probably get that if requested. If Dad does things right though you must accept that he'll end up with regular visitation if that's what he wants. However I can't honestly see him going through with it.

    Sure, he might file something just to scare you again - and really you know him, we don't - but do you think he's going to turn up to all of the court dates and go through with it all?

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    Dogmatique, I do think he would show up to all the court dates. He is a lowlife and has nothing better to do, and he would want to make my life hell so he would do it for that joy alone. I do not want him to get visitation rights at all. Don't you think there is a blackmail case here though? I don't want to charge him with it, but if he tries to get visitation I think I should throw it in his face.

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    Dogmatique, I do think he would show up to all the court dates. He is a lowlife and has nothing better to do, and he would want to make my life hell so he would do it for that joy alone.
    Which is why you've got to be REALLY careful regarding the people you make children with, and how you manage breakups and co-parenting with those people. Because more often than not, you're going to be tied to them for 18 years (or more).


    I do not want him to get visitation rights at all.
    The only way to guarantee that is to have chosen someone else as the other parent. If he's dad, you need to understand that if he WANTS to go through the process to establish and seek rights, he's GOING to get them, at some level - UNLESS he's shown to be a DIRECT danger to the child, is incarcerated for a life sentence or similar circumstance. If he hasn't been active in the child's life, then supervised visitation is absolutely reasonable and even predictable, but the reality is that dad is incredibly likely to be granted visitation by the court. Whether he'll actually USE it or not, you're in a better position to predict.

    Don't you think there is a blackmail case here though?
    Not really, no. BOTH sides are getting what they want. Dad is getting reimbursed for child support he's paying, and you're getting what you want in paying dad to stay away. The family court won't be happy with EITHER of you over this arrangement - dad for trying to get around the support order, and you for not only helping dad to do it, but also in the aspect of willfully working to keep dad away from the child (be prepared for the judge to tell you that such decisions get made by court)..


    I don't want to charge him with it,
    Which is good, because it's the state attorney who would bring the charge, and given that BOTH sides have agreed to manipulation of a family law matter, I'd be incredibly surprised if the state even thought about bringing a criminal charge.

    but if he tries to get visitation I think I should throw it in his face.
    If you're willing to face the ire of the judge that you've been paying to keep a parent and child separated, that's your call. Be prepared for the judge to come down harder on YOU than on dad, and for dad to say that the whole thing was YOUR idea to keep him away (which could even open the door for dad to request custody on the grounds that you've alienated him). Not that such a change is likely, but BOTH sides are going to come out of this with mud on their faces, and the more mud you decide to fling into the air, the more can come back and hit you.

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