My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Massachusetts
Here's my situation. My sons father and I broke up early 2007 because he had a mental break. This occurred in the presence of his 12 year old daughter and myself. He trashed the apartment and tried to commit suicide taking an overdose of pills. Shortly after which he tried to make amends with me. When that failed, he tried to drive his car into the back end of a parked car with me and him in it. (Unreported)
I found out I was pregnant in late 2007 and after long thought, I decided to tell him I was pregnant and allow him to be part of it. When my son was about 6 months old, I had to have him removed from my property by the police. He was unhappy that I did not want a relationship with him and became aggressive and agitated.
For the next 3 years, he attempted to use my son to make me miserable. He would arrange for scheduled visits but only do it for the first week. He would never help financially. After about a year of that it went to calling me on Monday to take him that Friday than calling back to change to Saturday and by Friday cancelling all together.
The last time I left him alone with his father I was unpacking his bag while my son was in the kitchen with him. When my son opened the dishwasher and fell on his head. Then after i told dad he needed to be more focused,my son came walking out of the kitchen with toe nail clippers in his mouth. The kitchen is about 10' x 10' he was about 2 feet from him at all times.
From that point on, I only allowed my son to go with his grandmother with specific instructions to not leave him alone with his incoherent father. They all live together at his mom's.
Now, I went to court today with DOR for support and was told by the judge I could not even request a psych eval or supervised visitation. Not to mention that our so called mediator was talking me down and praising up dad. Which, I know is just unprofessional as she is not a lawyer and should not be picking sides.
Prior to DOR involvement, I filed for a paternity test, court ordered supervised visitation and requested a psych eval. I saw the forms in my file but was told that even though I had them served to dad that was not a motion and meant nothing at all. I told the judge "I would be contacting a lawyer and would not allow my son to be cared for by an unsafe person. That is my right as a mother to protect my son from any and all dangers." I also asked for a home inspection prior to any consideration of unsupervised visitation because I know his house is NOT toddler proofed. Of course that is not required was the response from the mediator.
I should also say that we were never married but he did sign some paper when my son was born agreeing that he believed he was the father. Which I should also include may not be the case as we had just broken up.
I am scared to death that I will have to allow him to take my son when his focus in not where it should be. I am very concerned for the safety of my child. Please note that I only have 2 emergency baby sitters that I will leave my son with. Both of which are family. I do not ever put my son in harms way or leave him with anyone I do not trust 100%. So, it's not that I want my son to be without a father. I REALLY could use some down time as me and my son are together 24 - 7 (literally). I know first hand what it is like to grow up with a missing parent. That is just not worth risking my son's well being for. Any help you can give or info you could forward me would be greatly appreciated. Thanks![]()

