My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Maryland

I was divorced with two children ages 6 and 8 when I married my second husband. We also had two children. Without going into the entire background of this case, we split when our youngest was 3 months old due to my second husband (now my ex) abusing my then 10 year old daughter from my first marriage (his step-daughter). It all came as a shock and completely turned our (mine and my 4 kids) life upside down. As soon as I found out about the abuse, (like within 1 hour) he was gone; packed and gone!

Jump ahead a few years (and sparing you the gory details). …..He was arrested; plead guilty to lesser charge, finished probation and court ordered sex abuser therapy. I have sole legal and physical custody. He took me to court for visitation and from that it was decided to go through reunification therapy since he had not seen the kids for 2 years. That was about 1 ½ years ago. I met with the Dr. who is handling the reunification several times and learned that he (the Dr) would be doing the supervising for the visits and that I would also be present. Our order states that all issues regarding visitation are to be deferred to this Dr. and that the Dr. decides when and where visits take place. We had 4 visits between June 2010 and December 2010. Since then I have not heard from the court or the Dr. regarding any further visits. The other visits were scheduled between me and the Dr. , but I have not heard in 6 months about what is going on. However, my ex was constantly texting me to meet with him and discuss the children.

I am not able to deal with him…..just can’t seem to do it after what he did to my daughter and our family. It really makes my ill. My first ex husband and I co-parent very well together so I know how to do it….but this is different. Anyway, I blocked him from contacting my cell phone. I was required to give him my email address to use as his way of contacting me if needed. I have been ignoring his pleas to discuss our daughters; I just don’t even respond at all. The way I look at it is that since the order spells out the Dr. has the say with visitations, I should just wait to hear from the Dr. While I am a bit curious about what is going on and why the visits stopped, I actually prefer it that way; he has already hurt one of my children……

Do you think I am “safe” to just keep waiting to hear from the Dr and ignoring my ex’s pleas? I just don’t want to get hauled into court and have it sound that I am being uncooperative and risk losing sole custody to this person…..but I have heard of stranger things happening.