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    Default Toddler Breastfeeding and Overnight Visitation in Oregon

    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Oregon

    I'm facing a custody dispute with my girlfriend of nearly 4 years, and would like to see full custody due to her continued untreated problems with horading making her unable to provide a healthy and clean home environment for our child. I've been extremely involved with our child and we have a very close relationship.

    Problem is so far, I was unable to get overnight weekend visitation with our child in a temporary parenting time hearing because my ex brought up the fact that she is continuing to breastfeed and co-sleep with our nearly 3 year old child - a bone of contention, as she has refused to eliminate this while we were together.

    How can I fight this, and is there any point and which breastfeeding would not interfere with my at least obtaining overnight visitation?

    With regards to the hoarding issue, the atty I consulted said I really need to hire a parenting evaluator (think this is what he called it), who would evaluate both of our homes and make a determination as to who could provide the best environment for our child. This would cost around 4K and that's not an option, as my income is so low I qualify for the state's reduced atty fee program. Anyone have alternative ideas?

    Thank you

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    Default Re: Toddler Breastfeeding and Overnight Visitation in Oregon

    I'm actually surprised that you weren't allowed to get overnights - she can pump milk and I cannot see any reason why you shouldn't have overnights if you've been involved from the beginning.

    With regards to the hoarding issue, the attorney was pretty much on the ball. You could request a GAL instead - this tends to be cheaper, and the GAL (guardian ad litem) will act on the best interests of the child.

    What do your current court orders say about visitation?

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    Default Re: Toddler Breastfeeding and Overnight Visitation in Oregon

    Thank you for the GAL suggestion - I will research that further. I just had the hearing and am waiting for the written orders, but my understanding is that I only get visitation from 8am to 6 and am unclear if that is Fri, Sat, Sun or only one weekend day, EVERY OTHER WEEK! I just moved in with my parents two hours away now, so the poor kid would have to be in the car for 4 of my 9 visitation hours, which is hardly workable or have no place to nap if I stayed in town, not to mention the fact that his mother lets him stay up till 11 or 12 at night and sleep till 10, so his getting up at 8 is hardship enough.

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    Default Re: Toddler Breastfeeding and Overnight Visitation in Oregon

    Prior to your moving, how often did you see kiddo?

    (There is a reason why I'm asking).

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    Default Re: Toddler Breastfeeding and Overnight Visitation in Oregon

    Wait... breastfeeding a three year old?

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    Default Re: Toddler Breastfeeding and Overnight Visitation in Oregon

    The WHO recommends nursing til the age of 2, and longer if both mother and child so desire. It's really not all that uncommon.

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    Quote Quoting LawResearcherMissy
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    The WHO recommends nursing til the age of 2, and longer if both mother and child so desire. It's really not all that uncommon.
    this is true, I know one guy who is like 40 years old and I think his mom still breast feeds him. Well, figuratively speaking that is.

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    Default Re: Toddler Breastfeeding and Overnight Visitation in Oregon

    This whole breastfeeding someone who has a mouth full of teeth and is walking, talking and carrying on a conversation is just frightening...

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    Default Re: Toddler Breastfeeding and Overnight Visitation in Oregon

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    This whole breastfeeding someone who has a mouth full of teeth and is walking, talking and carrying on a conversation is just frightening...

    You need to meet my sister.

    She breastfed all three of hers until they were almost 4. You know the eldest (she's the musical genius), and the two boys are so ahead it's not even funny. Do I agree with her parenting style? Eh....maybe. Or not so much. But they did something right.

    But that aside - breastfeeding shouldn't be a reason for Dad not to have overnights if he's been a regular, consistent part of the child's life so far.

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    Default Re: Toddler Breastfeeding and Overnight Visitation in Oregon

    My kid skipped a grade and almost skipped a second one, but for the fact that I wouldn't allow the second skipping. He was bottle fed.

    Maybe he gets his smarts from his mother (who was also bottle fed)

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