I have a daughter who recently turned 14yr and has just advised me today that she would like to live with her father for a change. She has lived with me now for 12yrs and until this point has not been able to live with her father due to legal complications on his part. I do not want my daughter to live with her father due to his temper. In the last 3 yrs he was charged with domestic violence, put into jail for the entire night, had a restaining order against him and put on probation due to these charges. The domestic violence charge was against a female that he had been dating at the time. Previous history to this, I left for fear of my life. His wife before me left due to being hit from him. His oldest daughter stated that he pushed her down a set of stairs. My 14yr daughter is not aware of any of this as I have protected her from the truth. Unfortunately I have spoke to my ex husband in the regard that I do not want her to live with him and was advised that due to her being 14yrs old, that I do not have a choice and that the court will decide upon our 14yr old daughters wishes. Is this correct?