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    Default Tired of Living With My Mother

    im 15 and im tired of loving with my mom. I want to go live with my dad but theres one thing. Hes not my real dad , his name is on my birth certificite though. Well im tired of living with my mom because im tired of having to do things just to go to my dads every other weekend and even when i do, do them my mom doesnt let me go but she doesnt have a reason why. She lets my sister and brother go wherever they want and they dont do anything , its not fair to me. I asked my mom if i could go live with my dad and she said no but she didnt have a reason. I told my dad to take her to court but hes not sure if hes gonna get custidy of me because he not my biological father even though his name is on my birth certificite. What do i do ?

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    im 15 and im tired of loving with my mom. I want to go live with my dad but theres one thing. Hes not my real dad , his name is on my birth certificite though. Well im tired of living with my mom because im tired of having to do things just to go to my dads every other weekend and even when i do, do them my mom doesnt let me go but she doesnt have a reason why. She lets my sister and brother go wherever they want and they dont do anything , its not fair to me. I asked my mom if i could go live with my dad and she said no but she didnt have a reason. I told my dad to take her to court but hes not sure if hes gonna get custidy of me because he not my biological father even though his name is on my birth certificite. What do i do ?
    YOU can do very little. Your legal "dad" is the only person who can enforce or modify any custody and visitation orders. If he is unwilling to do so, you are sort of stuck.

    If anyone ever told you that life was "fair," they lied. Life is not fair. And, of course, every teenager thinks their siblings are treated better than they are. It seems to be in the teen gene. My kids say the same thing - they each think the other is given a pass on things they are not. It is almost humorous. I currently have 4 teens and one pre-teen living with me so I have a wee bit of experience with this.

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    Well my legal dad is out ofthe picture.

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    Well my legal dad is out ofthe picture.
    If dad on the birth certificate has not had his parental rights terminated by a court, then he probably IS legal dad.

    Was he married to mom at the time of your birth? If so, then he is legally presumed to be your dad until a court says otherwise.

    The bottom line is that you have no ability to control this situation. It is all in the hands of other adults.

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    My biological father is not in the picture, hes the guy that creatted me with my mom. Well when i was born he was nowhere around so my moms boyfriend signed my certificite, but we dont have the same dna, Would he still be able to take my mom to court and get full costidy of me ?

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    If he's the legal father - and that's the guy who's on the birth certificate, as a rule - then he can file for custody.

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    My biological father is not in the picture, hes the guy that creatted me with my mom. Well when i was born he was nowhere around so my moms boyfriend signed my certificite, but we dont have the same dna, Would he still be able to take my mom to court and get full costidy of me ?
    Until mom gets a court to rule he is not dad, he apparently IS considered your dad. But, if mom has already gotten DNA, then apparently she has already gotten his presumed parental rights tossed. If not, and she has the DNA to prove you are not his child, she can easily get him bounced.

    Again, the ball is in his court if he chooses to play with it, and your mother's. If mom holds the DNA card, then he can only do what she lets him do unless he wants to risk a court ruling he is NOT the legal dad. If mom requires you to do some chores to earn a visit with him, then you may well have to do those chores. That's life.

    If his name is on the birth certificate, he will be the presumed father until a court rules otherwise.

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    His name is on the birth certificite but my biological father had a dna test done from my mom and he matches with mine but the guy thats on my birth certificte we dont have the same dna but the biological father is not in the picutre so the guy on my birth certificite is the guy i call dad. so if he took my mom to court for full costidy he wouldnt win ?

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    WHO did the dna test?

    Was it just an informal one?

    Or was it done through the court?

    Because if it wasn't court-ordered, paternity likely hasn't been disestablished and he's STILL your legal father. And after 15 years, the court isn't likely to change that. So he can file for custody.

    However in your state he would have to prove to the court there has been a change of circumstance in your life - your wishes alone aren't enough.

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    My mom did a dna test on the father thats not in the picture and on the guy that signed my certificate. uhm im not sure

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