Excessive Child Support Awards

[fightback]

The problem:
Courts now award Non-Custodial Parents (aka the Victum) an unjustified percentage of income rather than what is realistic for raising a child. Women and Men both exploit the system to get unfair amounts of money extracted from their earnings. These award amounts have nothing to do with what is realistic in order to support a child, and have nothing to do with children, in fact, most people that use the system to extract money are doing so simply because they can use the system to extort each other.

Because of these extortionary acts against both women and men, the violence rates in divorce have been exacerbated because of the fact that the hard work that a person can be continually extracted at higher and higher amounts throughout the first 18 years of the child's life. This puts an enormous strain on our families, a burden that it does not need. It's also making people believe they can use the system to "Get Back" at their spouses rather than being an adult and taking responsibility for their part in things. This my friends must be stopped!


The Solution:
Contact your government officials, congressmen and women and get these crazy unregulated and outlandish laws changed! It's high time to make things right, there are too many stories of good hearted women and men getting taken to the cleaners paying exorbident amounts for child support. We must make these laws realistic. The United States census can easily do statistics on child support and customize a child support amount for each state for what should be termed "minimum' child support. The laws should be changed to be more fair and fix our damaged lifestyles of fraud and extortion. We've let the devil take control and given him the reigns and the name of it is "Money".

My Personal Story:
Sometime in y2000 I met a woman by the name of [Name Removed by Admin]. A friend of mine from work [Name Removed by Admin] said he had someone that he'd like me to meet. [Name Removed by Admin] was his wife's niece, so I felt I could trust him and their family. At first, when I met her, she seemed like a very good woman. Wholesome, no major issues, I recall that when she came to my house she didn't even want to stay the night, as she felt it was innappropriate. Boy was I wrong, a devil in disguise.

A couple months of dating went by, and I learned the whole story about how she came up to the United States from Mexico on vacation to help her Aunt out up here in the states. She served as their babysitter. Seemed nice to me at the time.

After about 4 months of seeing her. I made the stupid mistake of thinking she loved me. I knew that she had limited time here, and thought I was in love. I decided to ask for her to marry me. She accepted.

We decided to get a quick marriage so that we could get her immigration paperwork started, so we used the local Alameda county court system. We stood in front of the judge and made our vows to honor and cherish. Boy was I mistaken.

We went on a nice trip to Tahoe to get away for our honeymoon, which was very nice. Once we came back home, things seemed to settle in nicely. She had food on the table every day, and I enjoyed that. She was a homemaker, and I thought I'd had a real catch. Boy was I mistaken.

About 3-4 weeks into our marriage and about 2 weeks after I had completed the permanent resident visa do*****ents for her and submitted them to the INS, she tested herself because she said she thought she might be pregnant. I was overjoyed at the time, but I was a little suspicious since it happened so fast.

About a week later, I came home from the office, and she told me that she wanted to go back to mexico. Of course I was very upset. I couldn't believe what was happening. We went to my lawyer and explained the situation, and he told me that she couldn't just leave because she would need travel do*****ents to be allowed to come back since we had already filed for permanent residency. The lawyer explained that she had to wait 1-5 days for a travel visa. She decided not to get one. The Lawyer explained to her that it would be 2 years before she would be permitted back into the country. I was angry and hurt.

The very next day, she told me to take her to her aunt's house. She told me her aunt had bought her the tickets to leave to mexico. So she left.

I went through over a year of total lonelyness and sadness over the event. I drank profusely trying to ignore my feelings of hurt. I did maintain my work, and later met a wonderful woman. Her name was [Name Removed by Admin].

I explained to [Name Removed by Admin] that I must divorce her. I wanted to be responsible, so I told her that I'd like to pay child support. I explained that I could afford $350 a month. Since it was mexico I thought that was a reasonable amount. She immediately rejected it and said she wanted $800 a month. I told her I could only pay $500 a month. She rejected it again. But I could not afford $800 a month! So I spoke to my lawyer and he explained that I would need to stop making the small monthly payments of $150 that I had been making to support [Name Removed by Admin] down in Mexico. So I reluctantly stopped making payments. The lawyer explained that we needed to establish paternity before we agree to any sort of amount of child support since I was not certain that the child was mine. So I cut her off.

By the way, at the time of my divorce, I believed that she was just trying to get money since she kepts demanding $800 a month. We also believed that since she just took off to mexico a week after she was pregnant that she wanted to do that all along. So I filed marriage fraud papers with the INS against her.

About three years went by. Now its 2004 and I recieved a mix of papers that were seeminly filed in a court in mexico. They showed that she had filed for child support and claimed that I had beat her. I knew that she had cliaimed this since mexico has civil law and does not have a no-fault divorce. So this was her way to get out of the marriage. But I received the paperwork over a month after the court case had been tried in mexico, so I had no opportunity to respond.

Now in July 2006, she is using the Uniform Reciprocity Act of California with mexico in order to enforce a child support order from mexico. The Child Support Department of Alameda county is not after me for $1561 a month for 1 child in MEXICO! This is outrageous! My current wife's sister lives in mexico and is a school teacher and does not make that much in mexico a month! This is not support its highway robbery!

BEWARE OF CHILD SUPPORT LAWS. We need to change this rediculous legal system. Now Mexicans from Mexico can just come up here, shack up and return with a kings ransom every monthsponsored and approved by our wonderful JUSTICE FOR ALL legal system.

[aaron]

Please do not post names here. Thanks.

[jypsy_rose_lee]

I have to say I feel for you. A problem I'v seen far to many times with child support is that some mothers will use the child support payments sent to them for drugs,alcohol ect..., and the childs needs are not being met.I think persons receiving child support should be made to show proof as to how the support is being used. I to often wonder how alot of the parents paying child support survive, I know of some who's income just barely covers the amount of court ordered child support.