My husband and I would like to pursue a step parent adoption for my son. The biological father was not involved in the childs life for 7 years and knew the adoption was coming. He has only paid minimal child support and frequently worked under the table or took leave and never reported being rehired. He was diagnosed as terminally ill four years ago and had the support obligation dropped to the states minimal. Since the diagnosis he has worked part time and reports to us that he is well, while reporting to child support that he is still terminally ill. He is insiting on visitation to avoid the adoption and has told us as such. We are following a limited visitation program beginning with supervised visits and moving to short unsuperivesed visits. My son does not have a bond with this person and spends the visits trying to get our attention or that of the mediator and hardly interacts with ihs biological father. Characteristically the biological father is not a sound person and has a drinking history. There has been reports made about his conduct with his other illigitimate child and some domestic abuse issues with girlfriends. He also has a history of lieing, reclace driving, vandalism, and lives in a dump of a trailer free of rent. In other words he does not represent in any way what my husband and I think of for proper influences for our child. My husband has been involved in my son's life since my son was 3 months old. My son calls my husband 'Dad'. He refers to his biological father by name. What are our options if we would like to pursue terminating his rights so we could precede with the adoption. Our attorney's go back and forth and worry the court would take his side due to the terminal prognosis.

