Here's the scenario,
I have my two boys, ages 13 and 7 for the month of June. My ex calls me and tells me that she met some guy in the Caymans during the week she was there for her daughters wedding. The following week, he called her and invited himself to visit her on Thursday, here in Atlanta GA. She told me he's staying in the house with her. Now, she's only known this guy for less than a week and already feels comfy enough with him to have him sleeping with her in the house, so rather than expose my kids to that, I call her the following Monday and tell her I'll keep the kids for the summer so she can figure out what's going on with her and this guy without having to expose the kids to it. She's ok with that. The following week she e-mailed me and told me that she's going to marry "Dennis" and move her and the boys to the Caymans. She said that since "Dennis" is loaded, she's going to keep her house in Oakwood GA for when she brings the boys back here to see me. She mentioned her having the boys for half the year and me having them for half the year. Don't know what she has in mind for holidays, but I can't afford to fly to the Caymans to see the boys for my specified visitation every two weeks, and both the boys and I will be shortchanged on visitation for this deal.
There are several things wrong with this scenario First off, she's only known this guy for three weeks and while some folks may believe in the exisitence of love at first site, I think it's more likely "money at first site". She's trying to move this thing along too quickly, probably so "Dennis" won't think too much about it and reconsider things. Dennis would be her 5th husband (she had another one after I divorced her. She divorced him in 2002). While I can't stop her from marrying whoever she wants, I don't think it's in the best interest of the boys for her to move them out of the country where they cannot and I cannot have our court mandated visitation. Such a move violates that agreement. The Half a year with me/half a year with them thing isn't going to cut it. In addition to that, my 13 year old son has already indicated that while he wants his mom to be happy, he does not want to have to give up his friends and move out of the country. The 7 year old won't like it either. Here are my questions:
1. Considering the above, do I have any grounds to file a restraining order to keep her from taking the kids out of the country? Besides that, do I have any thing to work with on filing for primary custody? The boys would be better off with me and she can pay ME child support and have visitation.
2. As specified in my divorce decree, she has to notify me in writing by cetified mail, 30 days prior to any change in residence, and provide complete contact info. What if she doesn't do that?
My fear is that once she takes the kids out of this country, I will never see them again. Yes, I DO believe she will actually do this. I don't know how much time I have to prevent losing my kids. Complicating matters is the fact that I don't have money for a lawyer. She's talking about making the big move at the end of August. What can I DO???

