My question involves a child custody case from the State of: TN
First, I have been reading alot of threads, and know, as the Fiance to a man with a child by another woman, that I have no legal grounds to do anything in the matter. I am simply asking for advice on his behalf, as well as for information on her ability to make my participation in the child's activities after marriage difficult.
Here is the situation, my Fiance is an amazing father, he provides for and takes care of his son. He was actively involved in all aspects of his childs first year, until his deployment. The custody agreement makes him the Primary Custodial Parent with 51% and she has 49% with $0 owed in child support by either parent.
He recently deployed and this woman wants him to give her $800 a month b/c one of her friends had a military man as the father of her child and gets that much from him. She continually asks why the money only has to be for their son and she can't use it for herself and indicates that he should still be taking care of her as well as their son even though they are no longer together b/c she cheated on him. He obviously denied that amount and is providing her with the amount of child support he would have to pay based on TN standards, even though he isn't required to give her any money. He stocked up on necessities for the child before he left and is sending clothing/diapers/toys, whatever he needs as she requests it.
Since he denied the money and is seriously involved with me however, she is now changing her phone number so he can't contact her and denying the 2 phone calls a week the custody agreement states as a requirement, saying that since the child is 1, he can't have a conversation. The child recognizes his fathers' voice and his demeanor changes completely when he is talking, he is also beginning to talk and calls him dad when he hears him on the phone. She also repeatedly ignores his calls, denying him information on his sons' welfare.
She continually threatens to take him out of state to go live with some guy she used to date in NC, or the one she cheated on him with in TX, or go live with her father in GA. The agreement states that she has to give him 60 days written notice prior to leaving the state for any longer than 2 days. This is a very big concern of his b/c he IS deployed and there is no one here that will be able to do anything about it until his unit can send him back. By then, she could disappear completely.
He had his lawyer send her a letter reminding her of the custody agreement rules and notifying her that if she continues to do this, then she will be in violation of the agreement. He is keeping records of all conversations and threats that she makes that aren't verbal.
-Is there anything else that can be done at this point to protect him and his rights to his child?
-Does he have to wait until she actually leaves with the child to do anything about it?
-Once we do get married, can she deny me the ability to pick the child up from daycare even if he says it's ok?
-She has already come up to me since his deployment and made a threat. If she actually assaults me, what could happen at that point?

