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    Default My Father Took Pictures of Me in the Shower - What Can I Do

    My question involves criminal law for the state of: California

    This incident took place in August of 2009. My father and I were working together at a bowling tournament and only one shower in the house worked, the one in the master bathroom. Its a glass paneled shower and theres a big mirror in front of it with the sinks and everything.

    So I was taking a shower in the morning to get ready, and i saw something move out of the corner of my eye, so I looked up and noticed that my father was standing in his underwear outside the shower pointing a camera at me. For a minute I froze in fear and disbelief, but then I just stopped the shower and put a towel around me and left the room. I got dressed in my room and then had to use a sink downstairs to get the shampoo out of my hair.

    For about a week after that, I would wake up in the middle of the night and see him standing over my bed in his underwear. When he saw I was awake, he would pet my dog, which usually sleeps with me, and then leave the room.

    This event has caused me to have anxiety attacks on a regualr basis. I usually have one once or twice every two weeks. More often than that, I have nightmares that I'm not alone in my room and I'm too afraid to shower in my own home anymore. Usually I shower at a friend's house when I feel like I smell terrible, but being in a shower at all usually gives me a panic attack and I always rush through everything I have to do to try and make sure no one has time to take a picture of me.

    I just turned 18 and I don't have a job so I'm not sure what to do about this. Also, my younger sister is only 15 and she wants to move out because she agrees with me that our father is a pedophile but theres nothing she can do. I don't want CPS to get involved because she's finally happy at school and doing better so it wouldn't be fair to make her leave when my father hasn't done anything to her.

    I'm wondering what I can do about this. My boyfriend thinks I should move out as soon as poissible and then sue my father for pain and suffering because he's the reason I have such intense anxiety and control issues. Is that possible?

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    Default Re: My Father Took Pics of Me in the Shower. What Can I Do

    how old were you when the pics were taken?

    I don't want CPS to get involved because she's finally happy at school and doing better so it wouldn't be fair to make her leave when my father hasn't done anything to her.
    well, that should be the first place you go if you suspect he is a pedophile. How do you know he isn't doing anything to her? Just because you caught him watching you and she hasn't doesn't mean he isn't doing the same thing with her.

    If you believe a crime has been committed, you call the police. If you do not believe a crime has been committed, you either move out or deal with the situation. Have you considered locking your bedroom and bathroom doors when you are in the room?

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    If your father has violated a law even if it would be a misdemeanor of a sexual nature it should be turned in. This could be a psychological problem that can be treated. I'm not sure that it would be pedophilia as you have not indicated that he gets sexual gratification through voyeurism. But I can think of a lot possible psychological reasons for his behavior. He needs help before he builds himself up to actually committing a sex crime (again if he hasn't already done so). It sounds like he may be loosing touch with reality because of a trauma. You should get him help even if you have to get him arrested to convince him.

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    well my bedroom door doesn't have a lock on it and I used to close it every night when i caught him, so now when I try to sleep with it closed, it just makes the flashbacks worse. Also the bathroom door doesnt have a lock. its just a walkway between the master bedroom and bathroom and there are 3 doors into the room so there's nothing I can do there.

    I'm trying to figure out what to do because I want to leave, but I'm scared that if I do, he will start with my sister. As it is hes trying to spend more time alone with her and he pokes/tickles her a lot. I've asked her if hes done anything to her and he hasn't, but I feel like it'll be my fault if he starts doing what he did to me to her because I left her alone in this house.

    I know he gets some kind of gratification from all of this because I went to my younger sister's colorguard competition with my parents and took my boyfriend along so I'd feel safer and he was staring at all of the young girls walking by and checking them out. These girls are as young as 12 and he was acting this way!

    What can I do? I don't really care about him or how he feels. I just need to make sure my sister is safe and make sure he regrets what he's done, because when I first told my mom, she got mad and told him it was wrong and everything, but the other night, at dinner I was talking to my sister about creepy old guys who hit on teenagers. My father started defending people like that, saying that pedophiles like pre-pubescent girls and old men who hit on young teenagers are just perverts and it's ok for them do that because our society makes it ok.

    He's made it obvious that he thinks what he does is ok, so how do I legally stop it without ruining my younger sister's life? My mother hasn't had a job in 25 years and couldn't support my sister on her own.

    Oh and I was 16 when they were taken. This was a year and 8 months ago, and I just turned 18 last month.

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    either call cps or the police or quit lamenting about the situation. Those are the people who have the power to investigate and do something about the situation. if you want something done, contact them. If you don't want to contact them, then you have no reason to complain any longer.

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    Default Re: My Father Took Pics of Me in the Shower. What Can I Do

    what can cps do? I'm 18. He hasn't done anything to my sister. I came on here looking for kind, helpful advice, not hostility.

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    Ok, then what do you want? If you do not believe a crime has been committed and there is no sense in contacting the police or CPS, it's time to not worry about it. If you don't want to live where you are, then move. If you stay, it is by your choice. Nobody can make you do anything and it appears you do not really want to do anything. If that is the case, this entire discourse has been a waste.

    as to looking for kind helpful advice;

    not sure why I have to be kind. I gave you helpful. If you had to choose only one of those; kind or helpful; which would you choose? I gave you the one I figured you would really want. If you want kind, well, you can ask my children; that is not very common but I can say, they have a useful answer when they ask a question.

    sorry but I do not like people that come looking for advice and when they get it go "but I don't want to do that" yet they still want to complain about their situation. If you thought you would get advice to support what your boyfriend suggested; not a chance without proof and that is where the police or cps come in but again, if nothing illegal has happened, it would do no good to call them and due to that, no chance in suing dad and winning.

    Do take care and watch out for your little sister but understand, I have close friends that have dealt with being molested and I take it very seriously. It is not game and it isn't a get rich quick scheme. It is very damaging and if I thought somebody was molesting a friend or family member, I would not hesitate to take some serious action, immediately.

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    Penal Code Sec. 647
    This is a lesser charge that may include jail time. The pictures I am guessing were taken with a digital camera so if he has a computer it may contain them. If so it may also have other images that could be damaging to him.
    I understand that you are thinking of your sister and that you are trying to be careful not to affect her life. But if he gets out of it with even a few years probation he will be watched and your sister should be fine. There are always risks but sometimes it is worth it to take them.
    I know your sister told you nothing has happened yet but would she really tell you if it did? Or she may even be totally unaware of it if it was just groping.

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    Default Re: My Father Took Pictures of Me in the Shower - What Can I Do

    Call CPS or the cops, it's possible they will seize his computer and find, if not pictures of you, child pornography (if he is indeed a pedophile, there is a good chance there will be some on his personal computer). This is punishable by law.
    Also, I put a padlock on my door growing up, because I felt I had a right to my privacy. I also confronted my father with the help of a therapist, if that is something you want to do. Make it very clear that you will not stand for inappropriate behavior.
    As for your sister, I would let her know that you are a safe person to talk to, in case anything ever does happen.
    Then, since you are 18, get a job and move out. Let your sister stay with you whenever she wants so she knows she has a safe place to go. Stay vigilant, but don't be afraid to act, to get out of an unsafe or uncomfortable situation.

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    Default Re: My Father Took Pictures of Me in the Shower - What Can I Do

    Look jk I came on this site trying to find out what exact crime it would be called and what would happen if I were to call the cops.

    Thanks Hoopti for not being hostile and offering advice as well as giving me an idea of what exact law has been broken.

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