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    Question What Information Do I Legally Have to Share with My Fiance's Ex-Wife

    Hi everyone!
    I currently live with my fiance and he has his son every other week. His son is 3, and so has the wild imagination of a 3year old.
    I have a benign tumor that I am currently receiving outpatient chemotherapy and radiation therapy to deal with. Because of it's location and the medication, I get sick on my stomach at times. My fiance's ex-wife said she wants to know exactly what is wrong with me because her 3year old said that I "ate too much and had to go to the hospital" all because we were honest when he asked where I had been during a recent surgery. We told him that I had to go to the hospital, and that was all. He got the "she ate too much" from a comment I had made weeks earlier to my fiance about thinking I had eaten too much while we were out eating because my stomach was hurting.
    She takes everything that her 3year old says as "the gospel truth" and believes it to be fact. She told my fiance that she believes I have a mental issue because I "ate too much and went to the hospital."
    I understand that she wants to look out for her son (or I would assume she does, all her actions tend to point more towards her looking out only for herself and her bank account). Her son is in no danger with me. If he was, myself and his father would make sure he was not.
    I think she is just being nosey and wants to "be in control."
    What do I legally have to tell her about my medical condition?

    Thanks in advance.

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    Default Re: What Kind of Info Do I Legally Have to Share with My Fiance's Exwife

    Not a darn thing.

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    Default Re: What Kind of Info Do I Legally Have to Share with My Fiance's Exwife

    I fail the see the problem with having a mature, adult conversation. You have a medical condition. Explain that and let her know that her son is not in any danger.

    I don't know... seems like the drama is coming from both ends.

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    Default Re: What Kind of Info Do I Legally Have to Share with My Fiance's Exwife

    She's just concerned .. but you don't have to tell her anything ... you are free to do as you wish

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    Default Re: What Kind of Info Do I Legally Have to Share with My Fiance's Exwife

    I am perfectly capable and willing to tell her what is going on and have a mature, adult conversation. But she refuses to grow up and try act like an adult. She abuses power at the place she works and looks up all kinds of information on people whom she has no reason/right to look up. I know that if I appease her, she will try and cause problems later.
    She wants my fiance and myself to be forthcoming and tell her EVERYTHING, but she doesn't want to give him the same courtesy when it comes to her "boyfriend." She lies constantly about him, his job, his whereabouts. I don't trust her. And I have enough to deal with right now without having to deal with her.
    Like I said, I'm willing to have a mature conversation with her, if she will be mature. But she needs to be as open as she wants us to be, in my opinion.
    I am just wondering what I have to legally tell her about my condition because it is a private matter.

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    Default Re: What Kind of Info Do I Legally Have to Share with My Fiance's Exwife

    And you've been given the answer. Legally you do not have to tell her a darned thing.

    What you are legally required to tell her, however, and what would be the best move with regards to the child and her comfort level at leaving the child with you, are not necessarily the same thing.

    Sounds like a power struggle to me, with both of you saying "I'm not going to tell HER anything unless she tells me everything FIRST".

    Did CC mention the word, Mature?

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    Default Re: What Kind of Info Do I Legally Have to Share with My Fiance's Exwife

    You are not legally required to tell her anything about your medical history. There is no court that will grant any order to force you to disclose your condition either.

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    Default Re: What Kind of Info Do I Legally Have to Share with My Fiance's Exwife

    You don't need to tell her anything. If this woman is being mean. The best thing to do is to just stay out of her way. The child is between her and her father. You are not involved in anyway. I'm not trying to say that you don't love his child. But, for your best interests stay out of this as much as possible.

    I have the same problems with my fiance's ex-wife. Except we have proof of her abusing his 6 year old son. Different story. I have never met her in person and I have never spoken to her on the phone. She doesn't even know my last name. Until I am married to my fiance. I am considered a stranger to the child by the courts.

    If it does continue. She will start to look bad. BEcause she is denying him the right to see his child. It does seem like a power struggle. Tell your fiance to deal withher and not you.

    Stay out of it as much as possible because she does not need to interfere in your new lives.

    also, if she keeps this up you and is constantly insulting you and your fiance and discrediting you both as parent's than ask an attourney about sland and discernment suits.

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