My question involves criminal law for the state of:Wisconsin. Couple of days ago i confronted my bf about what was on my computer and why it was running slow. I looked in the history of the websites and i found pornography. He got really angry with me then was calling me horrible names. The arguement then lead into a verbal fight, i just sat there and let him do most of the yelling. That got me in even more trouble with him. He got angry and then grabbed me by my wrisits and was screaming at me. While this was going on my 8 month old son was right next to us, watching all this happening. My bf got on top of me and held me down with his body. It hurt and so i was trying to get away from him and i got no where. He wouldnt let me go. Finally he stopped and I grabbed my son and left the house till he went to work. At 1:30am when he got home from work he went through my phone. By this time we were no longer together. I had a number in there that he didnt know and yes it was a guys number but nothing bad was said. Just said "Hi how are you?" He then went off the handle on me and was doing more name calling and i said "who cares who it is, its none of your business." Thats when he grabbed me again and i was now on the floor. He was holding me down hard. He then grabbed the back of my sweat shirt that had a hood on it and tried choking me with and was head to head with me. He wouldnt let go then he finally did after a min. I then got back on the couch and he was still after me. He kneed my legs to where they were locked and i couldnt move and he was holding me down with his upper body. I kneed him in the groin when i was able to. That mad him even more mad.
After that, he told me he was going to stay at his moms that night. So he left and i locked the doors after him. I called him and told him there was a basket of laundry on the porch for him for work the next day and if he doesnt stop i will call the cops. I gave him 3 or 4 warnings by that point about me calling the cops. Half hour later he shows back up and wants inside. After a hour of him txting me to let him in, i finally gave in thinking he cooled down. I went back to sleep but then he came after me and my phone. This lasted at least 2 hours because in between my son woke up. My bf then finally went to sleep and i went to sleep on the couch.
I woke up that morning and was worried still if he was going to hurt me again. Thats when i called the cops and asked them what should i do? I talked to a disbatch women at green county and she asked if i would like an officer to come out and TALK TO THE BOTH OF US. I said yes. So the sheriff shows up and is questioning me about what happened and asked if i had marks. I had a couple bruises from my ex. Next thing i know another officer comes in. Two go upstairs to wake my ex up and then i hear that he is getting arrested.
My question for you is, how come they never asked me if i wanted to press charges? How come they didnt tell me he was getting arrested till he was about to walk out the door? I thought the sheriff was just coming over to talk to the both of us. He is the father of my son and i just wanted this abussing to stop but i didnt want him to go to jail. I wanted them to scare him enough to where maybe it would stop. This abuse has been going on for the past 3 years on and off, mentally and physical. He has never hit me just grabbed and held down. This was the first time he ever tried choking me. Should they have asked me if i wanted to press charges or no???

