
Quoting
Julia Chambers
Dogmatique:
Thank you for your response. Dad is the visiting parent and my daughter is the sole custodial parent. I understand that when in Dad's house, my grandson must obey their rules. However, I disagree that his wife, the stepmother, make the rules for my daughter's house as well by keeping the phone (active and on my family plan). As the loving "mother" she claims to be to him, I would have thought nothing about it had she contacted us and said that he was not allowed to have the phone in their home...and GIVE THE PHONE BACK THE MOTHER SO HE COULD USE IT AT HIS/HER HOME WHICH IS HIS PRIMARY RESIDENCE.. She kept the phone to prevent him from using it as him mother's house or anyone's house. She has had it over a year now. I've nicely asked for it back...the answer is no, I'm using it as evident that you tried to keep me from talking to my stepson....well she kept all grandparents from talking to my grandson by keeping the phone. Being the stepmom does not allow her to take the phone and keep it does it?? If so, can I pick up anyone's phone I don't want them to use in my home and keep it??? I filed a claim and delivery through our local magistrate. He thought she would hand over the phone when she was served, but she did not. We go to court next Thursday and it is up to me to prove that she kept an action phone and all she had to do was return it to us. AND yes, my grandson is in therapy. Tonight he cried because he didn't want to get in the car with her (tonight is his father's evening to spend 3 hours with him). He didn't let her see him cry because his Dad might spank him. When he was 2 he witnessed his Dad being arrested for domestic violence toward his Mom.
The Dad then broke into the house even though there was a restraining order and was sent back to jail. We don't talk about his Dad or stepmom in front of him. We have told him it is ok to like them or love them. Even so, he can 'feel' what is going on because of her 'private' conversations with him. His Dad told me that never happens, so my grandson is afraid to tell his Dad anything because he said he believes her. He said he just gets the spankings when they say he lies because he is a bay boy. If I had the money, I would take his Mom and him away from this situation until the child is old enough to build an adult relationship with his Dad. Maybe the stepmom will be out of the picture by then.