I was married in Mass.in the late 80's. We changed our minds the day of the wedding,in fact my marriage was never consummated.We lost touch a few months after the marriage. Until now it never really was a concern, however I am about to buy a home with another person and have been advised that now is the time to actually get a divorce. I live in Ca. and really have no idea where my husband is. Am I actually even married? If so, can I file for a divorce here in CA?