My question involves child support in the State of:Missouri and Maryland
Okay, this is LONG, so I apologize for being a Tolstoy.
Divorced in 2004. Two children moved with their mother from Illinois (where I lived at the time) to Maryland.
Child Support ordered based on my previous year's income (When I was working two full time jobs)
Ex wife forced daughter to move out of the house the week she graduated High School. (she was 17 at the time) I contacted the State's Attorney's office to report that my daughter was no longer living at home, was about to turn 18, and asked how I could go about filing for a modification based on A) a material change in circumstances in my finances, (I had lost both jobs I had been working) B) Daughter turning 18, C) Daughter no longer living with Custodial Parent, and working full time while living with her boyfriend.
I was told that *I* could not report that my daughter was living outside of the CP's home. I was told that my EX would have to come into the office, and volunteer the information. (No way she was going to volunteer to get less support). I asked if she didn't come in, could they subpoena her, and was told no.
I asked what steps people normally had to take when a child turned 18, and was told flatly that my ex wife had to come into the state's attorney's office and volunteer that information.
I asked if how I could apply for a modification, and was told to go to my local Child Support office and open a case file there, and request it through them. I opened a case, and when I was given a case number, I called the information line and explained the situation, and that the State's Attorney told me I had to have the state of Missouri (where I now live) file the request. Missouri sent a request for a modification. After a months wait, I called back and was told that Maryland had responded to the request by saying that I had not sent in the required paperwork. I was never told that there was any form I was to fill out.
I found the needed forms online, and mailed them (per Maryland's directions) to the Missouri office, who in turn forwarded them to Maryland.
After another month's wait, I called and was told that Maryland said they couldn't accept the paperwork, because it was not the right paperwork. I called Maryland and asked what forms to fill out. I was told "call your local office and ask for a UIFSA request to modify. (I don't know why I wasn't told this the first two or three times I called and asked what I needed to do). I then contacted Missouri and asked how I would go about getting the UIFSA paperwork done, and was told that Missouri did not participate with UIFSA. (the caseworker actually didn't know what UIFSA was)
This had went on for about 9 months, and I called Maryland again, but the State's Attorney who I normally talked to was on vacation, so the lady covering told me that they handle these cases three to four times a month, and there was three ways to go about it. 1) putting in a UIFSA claim 2) Hiring an attorney in Maryland to appear on my behalf, or C) file the normal Maryland forms and appear in person before the judge.
I filed the forms from Maryland via Missouri, as I was instructed to do, and requested a date with the judge.
After a few weeks, I called for a status update, and Missouri told me that Maryland had responded to my request (which was handled the way THEY told me) wasn't what I needed to do.
I called the State's Attorney AGAIN and asked exactly what I needed to file, who to file it with, and what information I needed to send. I was told "We already told you. You need to file your paperwork" I asked exactly WHAT forms I needed, and the State's Attorney yelled "JUST FILE YOUR PAPERWORK" and hung up the phone.
I cannot afford an attorney. I cannot afford to travel to Maryland to appear before a judge.
My state doesn't participate in UIFSA.
Maryland refuses to proceed unless I get UIFSA paperwork.
This has been going for nearly two years. I am paying on a child that is nearly 20 years old, who isn't in school full time. I make about 1/3 what I did previously when they originally calculated child support.
I work 40 hours a week and bring home $350 every other week after child support is taken out.
I can't do this forever. I am too worn out and old to go back to working two full time jobs to make ends meet.
I have zero problem paying for my remaining child, but don't feel it's right that I pay for TWO kids, and it's based on what I was making seven years ago.
I am willing to listen to ANY advice! Thanks!