I have agreed to couples counseling, but he is refusing. He says that it's tradition for the child to take the man's last name, and while that may be true, I just don't want any part of that tradition, which is something we discussed when we first started dating, and again when he proposed, and again when we got married. He wasn't enthusiastic about it, but he also wasn't trying to put his foot down like he is right now. I also can't stand his last name. I can see where he's coming from, but he's refusing to see any part of what I have to say. He just thinks that because he's the man, he is the boss and in charge, even though I am in charge of all finances, I make more money than him, etc, etc.

He's even gone so far as to call me a "femi-nazi." I'm not trying to make him feel like less of a man, but we've discussed this - he KNEW what he was getting himself into when we started dating, and I told him I wasn't going to change my mind - and I meant it. I even broke up with him for a short time when we were dating and talking about getting engaged to let him think about it - I had no problem with (and still have no problem) walking away if we can't come to an understanding about this. Like I said, I love him, but this is a dealbreaker for me.

I think you might be right... a divorce may be in my near future.