I suppose I was lax in not asking exactly how the order was written, to begin with. Sorry about that!
If the situation is basically returning to how it was before you were incarcerated, and that Dad was ok with you living together, that's several points in Mom's favor if Dad decides to press the issue. It would seem a little unfair for him to use that against her now.
However - because of the nature of the situation, it's still worth having chat with a local attorney who can gauge the court's climate.
Good luck - I can see you're trying to get your lives back on track and wish you all well.
thanks for your feedback. my wife is contacting a local attorney. i hope the message is clear to anyone reading this read (you other husband's and father's out there) .. stay away from getting involved with this stuff (the internet stuff) .. the ripple effect on your family's will be horrible!! regaining trust with the community is possible, but it's a long, long battle, and it will never be what it was before.