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    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Indiana

    My concern is the things that happen when she goes there. A previous incident involved a child molestor (she was not molested). She was left in the care of his current wife's grandparents of whom had this gentleman at their house. There was an incident with my ex's stepson and this man. They took all the children in to the police station to be questioned. I heard about this from my 9 year old. When I confronted my ex he admited it was true but didn't happen at his house. It was at the grandparents and it didn't involve my daughter but she still had to be brought in for questioning.

    The second incident happened when she got back from Christmas at her Dad's. She is scared to sleep alone in her room because she says that my ex's step daughter tried to poison her grandmother. We have not confronted him yet (we just found out today). This step daughter was also sent away to live with her grandmother because of turmoil with my daughter. This terrifies me. What can we do?

    She is 9 years old and we have joint custody. It's normal visitation guidelines according to the Indiana parenting time guidelines. He does live over 200 miles from us though and it takes 1 1/2 hours half way to pick her up every other weekend. Yet another problem but not concerned with that at this time.

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    My question involves a child custody case from the State of: Indiana

    My concern is the things that happen when she goes there. A previous incident involved a child molestor (she was not molested). She was left in the care of his current wife's grandparents of whom had this gentleman at their house. There was an incident with my ex's stepson and this man. They took all the children in to the police station to be questioned. I heard about this from my 9 year old. When I confronted my ex he admited it was true but didn't happen at his house. It was at the grandparents and it didn't involve my daughter but she still had to be brought in for questioning.
    Not sure why this would reflect on him - ANY person the child may ever be with can have someone undesireable over to their home. If you believe that he KNEW that this person would be around, AND that he had reasonable suspicion to believe this person presented a danger to the child, you may have avenues to explore, but I'm not realistically seeing ANY court give credence to making changes in visitation because of it. It's akin to the child being hit by a meteor from space - the issue is showing how HE could somehow be RESPONSIBLE or should have KNOWN of the issue.

    The second incident happened when she got back from Christmas at her Dad's. She is scared to sleep alone in her room because she says that my ex's step daughter tried to poison her grandmother.
    WHY does she think this? Courts want to see things like police reports, they're going to want MORE to consider than the statements of a 9 year old who isn't likely to have all of the facts. Is there some DOCUMENTED incident to back this up?

    We have not confronted him yet (we just found out today). This step daughter was also sent away to live with her grandmother because of turmoil with my daughter. This terrifies me. What can we do?
    So the problem child has been removed from the home. What ELSE do you think should be done?

    It's normal visitation guidelines according to the Indiana parenting time guidelines. He does live over 200 miles from us though and it takes 1 1/2 hours half way to pick her up every other weekend. Yet another problem but not concerned with that at this time.
    Were travel arrangements not specified in the original order? Did he move AFTER the original order was put in place? If so, it's perfectly reasonable, given a change in circumstances, for you to ask the court to modify the existing order to place the burden of travel more on him, if he chose to move further away.

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    Thank you for the advice. I try to keep an open mind on things when a young child mentions things. So many things can be misunderstood and misinterpreted. Our original order was made 7 years ago and I have not been to court since. I try to keep in mind if it was me in his shoes and be understanding. I probably just worry too much.

    There is nothing to back the second event but the first there are police records, but like you said she was in someone else's care at the time.

    As far as the problem child, she lives with the grandmother where my daughter still frequents.

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