The letter of apology to the employer has good liklihood of being a key peice of evidence in a felony criminal charges against you - it's akin to a confession. Prosecutors have a lot to work with and none of it is in your favor. On the other hand, a lot of non-profits suffer terribly from fall off of donor interest when information about embezzlement issues is made public, such as by them filing a police report - so even though it's a hefty amount, there's no guarantee that they'll actually FILE that police report. All you can really do is wait and see. If police end up making an arrest, you need to say NOTHING to them except "I'd like an attorney". Regardless of what your ex has threatened you with as far as criminal charges and the taking of your son, your action of the theft in and of itself could have that same exact effect, and CPS is highly likely to be involved as well, given the exposure your child has had to all of these events. STOP communicating with your ex. He's already manipulated you into making some very poor, life altering, choices, and the last thing you need is to make things go from bad to worse by continuing to operate under his influence. The legal problems you're already facing are probably equal to or worse than what problems he's threatening to bring. He doesn't need to know where you are, what you're doing, or what your plans are - and him having any of that knowledge could spell additional physical dangers to you and your child. As far as he's concerned, you need to drop off the face of the earth.