WOW!! Thanks so much!!
Regarding custody: Do we have to go though a court process to decide who gets custody? Or is it typically given to the mother provided she is a fit parent (which I am more than). He wants joint custody...but I honestly think it's only because he thinks he wont have to pay child support that way. And I really wouldnt mind joint custody, the only problem is I would like to move out of state in the future. How does that work?

