My question involves a marriage in the state of: OH

Been married 9 years in November and things are just not working out....

No abuse from either side, just something that should have happened a long time ago.


We have been discussing divorce for a few months..

But, I just lost my job and am going to get a loan from my parents for a retainer fee for a lawyer.

I was making a descent salary and my wife has been unemployed for about 4 years.
Her choice..

She was in the computer field and didn't want to go back.. She also didn't want to take a local walmart type job, due to the low pay.

I am 40 and she is 41.

No kids, two cars, some credit cards (none are in both names), wifes retirement plan about 20k, House Mortgage with 2nd mortgage (in wife's name, she wants it and she can keep it).
pile of debt.

I just have a couple questions:


If I retain a lawyer, do I have to pay for a lawyer for her? ( I know her mom will give her the money). She states that she was told, I had to pay for her attorney, no matter how expensive they are.

Can she kick me out of the house while we are still married? Mortgage is in her name only.

wondering how spousal support will go since I no longer have a job.. She was trying to get over half my salary.. But now my salary is zilch.

This really sucks, if she just had a job, this would be so much easier.