My question involves a marriage in the state of: TEXAS/GA/AL
This is not my situation - just looking for comments or opinions. I don't have all sides of the story, just the husband's.
Husband (T) and wife (C) lived in Texas. They had 2 children (S and J). After more than 10 years of marriage, C left with the kids and went to NY, where she filed for divorce, the papers were drawn up but she never had the final decree signed by a judge. After a few years she returned her daughter, S, to her husband and never saw or contacted her again (S is now an adult with children of her own) and kept her son, J, with her. C and T both remarried but I'm not sure how since the divorce was not final. T, now in AL, had problems getting married again, they said he was a bigamist, but apparently he produced the divorce papers and they were accepted even without the final decree. T's new wife regards S as her own. For a short time C kept T in contact with J (brought him for 1 visit), but then moved to GA (where she met SH, her 2nd husband) and moved around a lot and did not have J keep in contact with T. T says every time he would find her address she would move (but C and SH were in the same 2 places for the last 10 years; before that, they did move a lot). T says (he just learned this) C also sent J back and forth a lot to her home country to live with his grandparents. I suspect lack of funds to pay a PI/lack of knowledge of how to search public records on the internet played a part in his inability to find them. He says neither he nor C paid child support to the other because they agreed on not sending money (I suspect it was not a written agreement). T says he had no idea (except what state) where J was until recently when J contacted S on a social networking site. J is now 18.
This is a mess.
My connnection with it is that SH was (he's dead now) the father of my son, that he abandoned, and an earlier son by1st wife that he also left, and I recently found them myself (PI/public records).
Question: I think T never had a legal leg to stand on (regarding visitation, her bringing his son out of state and not keeping in contact, etc) because the court was never involved in any of this,except the divorce filing, for whatever reason. Because there were no legal agreements, C was free to do whatever she wanted... Am I right? Anyway, now the children are both adults.

