A soccer game would be pretty much non-interactive, totally unlike the situation I described. And to be honest, I wouldn't really have a problem if their mom wanted to stop by the school for lunch every so often. But that isn't the case here. She or her mother is coming in, tossing out the lunch I made for them specifically to address nutritional issues, and upsetting the kids.
(edit: Yes, upsetting the kids. Yesterday they came home crying because they thought I would be mad at them for not eating their lunch)
They were both born very small. While outside of my care, they were given sugary drinks constantly and literally not fed anything but chicken nuggets. As a result, they have SEVERE (and I mean SEVERE) dental problems that required me sending many letters to the point of threatening legal action. Teeth are all fixed up now and they are old enough to brush themselves while at their moms so things have improved greatly. I'm not saying that caused the height/weight issues, but both of them are in the VERY low percentile for height/weight. The doctor told me what types of food I should concentrate on, what kind of vitamins to give them and same with drinks. (whole milk only while at home, etc, etc...) But I don't want to dwell on that. My point isn't that she should not be going to lunch with them ever on my days, but more...there is a line. Every day and this throw away my lunch garbage will not fly.

